We always envy mothers who have a son and a daughter. We feel that they are simply winners in life. We can laugh when we look at two babies every day.
However, is the life of both children really so beautiful and carefree?
We received a contribution from a second-child mother. After she was upgraded to a second-child mother, she had many new thoughts. She said so about the happiness and bitterness of both children.
The second child has been released to the whole nation. More and more second babies have been born. When I went to the hospital for prenatal examination, I found that The post-70s in their early 40s and the post-80s over their 30s are the new force in the tide of having a second child. Women compatriots are on the road to having a second child [one after another]. My daughter is 2 years old and 10 months old, and my son is 6 months old. Relatives and friends around me pay homage to [a family of four] and say one after another:
[Both children are really happy. Looking at the two babies every day, my mouth is crooked.]
However, I would like to ask, are you happy, two treasure mothers with both children?
In order to achieve both children, the mother must first have a fearless heart.
The so-called fearlessness also means that the ignorant are fearless.
My second child is an unexpected gift. I am not an only child. I also think it is a happy thing for the two children to grow up together. Therefore, I took the second child as a gift from heaven and gave birth to him naturally.
A childhood best friend who lived in a fourth-and fifth-tier city in her hometown was amazed when she heard that I had a second child.
[Dear, you are too brave. In a big city like Beijing, you gave birth to a second child without saying a word! I admire it! It’s very courageous.]
Across the mobile phone screen, I can imagine my best friend’s stare round eyes, mouth Zhang into O-shaped, the surprised expression.
My brain mended her, covering her chest and shaking her head, scared the baby to death!
My best friend told me that she was very tangled with whether to have a second child or not in her hometown, because her energy and financial resources were limited, and she was really tired and expensive to raise. You know, now all trades related to infants are the best to earn money.
I also don’t know, from before the baby was born, private hospitals (I can’t choose), sea-panning milk powder, diapers, toys, and all kinds of lovely small clothes bought by buy buy can’t stop you from [chopping] your hands, the following early education classes, swimming classes, kindergartens (private expensive, public trust relationship pays sponsorship fees)…
Only then did I think that when my baby was three years old, my liver trembled.
As the second treasure mother, I hurried back to work as soon as the maternity leave was over. I also wanted to earn some milk powder diapers for my baby. My effort is to earn stuttering for my baby. Let her father face the expensive education expenses.
Therefore, to have another one, one needs to be fearless and not afraid of the life and economic pressure you will face.
Both children satisfy the mother’s vanity to a certain extent.
Since giving birth to the second child, my mother’s ears have been much clearer, and there will be no more grandmothers, seven elder sisters and eight elder aunts asking and urging you to have a second child. In particular, it has achieved both children. In the eyes of the older generation, you think your life is complete.
Pushing the second child and pulling the eldest brother to walk downstairs, there will always be aunts in the community looking at the dolls in the car, looking at the little girl in your hand, and asking if the car is a younger brother or sister. When you answer that it is a son and a daughter, you will always say:
[It’s really good to have children, lucky to have both children.]
His eyes were full of admiration and recognition. Until you went far away, he still looked at your back and sighed, “Winner in life!” ]
Well, the birth of a pair of children is originally the result of the competition between the X chromosome and the Y chromosome in nature. It is a matter of natural law, but it has been given a special meaning by the extensive and profound Chinese culture.
The matter of having children brings more appreciation to me, a woman of childbearing age, than studying hard, working hard and getting a good result and a good future through personal efforts, as if this is the ultimate goal of a woman.
The full ears of praise brought the satisfaction of vanity-it was really a bit confusing.
In the face of children, mothers will feel guilty.
To treat one’s children, one’s palms and backs are all meat, and one’s mother should have a bowl of water balanced.
Ideal is very plump, reality is very bony. A person’s energy and physical strength are limited. When you are in the noisy environment where the second child cries and the eldest child makes noise, you are unkempt and face the dark circles under your eyes that did not rest well the night before. The small universe is in danger of erupting at any time.
When I was in confinement, I was angry with my daughter. The reason was that her daughter did not eat. The breakfast prepared early in the morning was placed on the table. The daughter glanced at it, pulled down her bib, threw it on the ground, climbed down from the dining chair and ran away. I caught up with her and carried it back. The spoon was put into her mouth. Her tongue was stuck and she spit it out and got it on her clothes. It was clear that she was deliberately finding fault? !
This compartment is a [no food] war, and that compartment is the second child who is starving. I got up like a chicken, picked up my daughter, threw it into the bathroom, closed the door, and thought about it behind closed doors. My daughter cried at the top of her voice inside. I counted it in my heart and had to count to 1,000 before opening the door.
As a result, the daughter cried and vomited.
I finally calmed down because I felt distressed. When I picked her up and washed my face, my daughter asked me carefully:
[Mom, do you still like me? ]
For an instant, my eye socket became hot, and my heart seemed to be a water tank full of water, which was going to explode.
Children who are only over two years old will suddenly look at people’s faces, understand that their mother’s attitude towards her is unfriendly, and doubt whether they are not loved.
She looked at me with deer-like clear eyes, her eyelashes wet with tears, and flickered up and down like butterfly wings after rain, waiting for my answer.
I hugged her tightly and said:
[Mom likes you, Mom just doesn’t like your behavior of not eating. Mom likes you best.]
The daughter asked again, Mom, are you happy?
After listening to this sentence, I am really ashamed of guilt. She is still concerned about my emotions! I really want to have a crack in the ground and disappear for a quarter of an hour.
My daughter used to be so bad to eat well. When there was no cry from my younger brother, I could still coax her patiently, tell her stories and accompany her to eat. The cry of the second child, the soreness of my waist and back, and the soreness of my arms, made me lose patience with my daughter and vented my anxiety on her.
The daughter is only a child over two years old. She may also be full of curiosity about the baby suddenly appearing in her mother’s arms. She may also have a feeling that her territory has been inexplicably invaded. If there is no younger brother, it is she who arches around in her mother’s arms.
The daughter is still concerned about whether her mother is happy or not.
Are you happy, my daughter?
From then on, I began to take more care of my daughter’s mood, hoping that the arrival of my younger brother would not make her feel insecure when she was robbed of her mother.
Sometimes, when my daughter sees my younger brother in my arms, she will say, Mom, put the younger brother down and hug me. Mom, put the younger brother on the cot. I will readily agree.
But in this way, the second child’s milk will be interrupted. Looking at him in the small bed, his pursed little ass lying prone gnawing hands, the lonely little figure, is also very sad.
I don’t know if there is a second child in the world who won’t be beaten.
The elder sister will suddenly attack the younger brother who is nursing in her mother’s arms. One minute she was still praising her younger brother for being cute. The next second she saw her younger brother nursing in her mother’s arms. She quietly dived to her younger brother, swung her small fist and punched her nose.
The second child, who had just enjoyed the warm breast milk, was stunned in an instant and reacted for ten seconds. He burst into tears with his flat mouth, his hands and feet pedaled indiscriminately, and he was hungry and did not care to eat milk. He looked helpless and innocent.
Recently, my younger brother loves to eat hands, One day, my sister ate my brother’s hand. At that time, I was by my side. My sister pulled my brother’s hand out of his mouth and made up her mouth. My brother suddenly shook his head, shivered all over and began to wail loudly. Another look showed that his brother’s big fingers were deeply stained with blood. I questioned my sister, who stared at innocent big eyes and said:
[My younger brother loves to eat his hands, and I also love to eat his younger brother’s hands.]
When the mother’s ten thousand points of love and guilt, regret a minute ago how didn’t see the sister’s mind, guess her next action. Recall whether from which behavior improper, triggered the contradiction between the two children. Looking at the brother’s face big big big pouring out tears, the heart is infinite sadness guilt.
With children and daughters, I always feel that I have not given my daughter 100% care and my son all-round care. It seems that I owe three points to every child.
To treat children, mothers should have a fair heart.
It is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation to favor boys over girls.
When you give birth to a daughter and have a second child, others will think:
[You just like your son and want a son, then with a son you will definitely prefer your son and mistreat your daughter.]
Huang Lei’s three-child birth was originally a happy event in the life of both children. It was all portrayed by busybodies as a preference for boys over girls and a need for sons to carry on their families.
My family has no throne to inherit, and the family property is also a [debt asset].
If my mother prepares a house for my younger brother, she will certainly prepare a house for her sister. Of course, in the first-tier city with high house prices, I may not have this ability as ordinary as a worm. However, even if it is a moon cake, the two children are equally divided.
This is a fair heart that a mother must have.
I remember my daughter opened her eyes and looked at me for the first time. Her eyes were full of purity and attachment. She also remembered her son’s first cry, which made people feel as happy as the cock crows in the morning.
The two babies were born desperately by their mother in October when she was pregnant. They both had small feet with meat and small pink mouths. They were all raised by their mother with one mouthful of milk. In my mother’s eyes, they were all little angels sent by God to accompany me, without any difference.