There are two famous words, As you must know, It is [food and color, Sex also] and [Eat Drink Man Woman, How can one’s great desires survive? The former said that it is human nature to love beautiful things. The latter means that appetite and sexual desire are human nature. However, modern people often, intentionally or unintentionally, mistake the first sentence for the [color] of [you know], and cut off the second sentence, the latter half of the Master’s emphasis on the use of ritual to manage and control desire. They will make mistakes and make excuses for their actions by the words of saints.
However, what is wrong is not outrageous. Whether it is [sexual] is really human nature to a certain extent, reflecting the degree of physical and psychological health.
Zhang Wei had a girlfriend before, deep feelings, but to talk about the degree of marriage, but broke up. Zhang Wei was very sad, until almost a year later, just out of the shadow, met the present girlfriend Jingjing. Two people’s feelings are getting deeper and deeper, so naturally moved to together, ready to go to the legal procedures.
But the first time they failed, Jingjing came back early that day to prepare dinner. And wine and candles, But when Xiao Zhang came back, he said he was tired. I just wanted to go to bed early. Later, The situation is getting worse and worse. Every time Jingjing mentions this, she is always full of expectation. But Xiao Zhang is either tired from work, Either directly said no mind, to jingjing’s initiative, also just simply deal with it, every time jingjing poured disheartened. Later also told jingjing, two people love each other don’t have to do this, no is not also quite normal. But later jingjing found that occasionally Xiao Zhang would secretly solve in the toilet.
Jingjing sometimes ignored Xiao Zhang in anger, but still could not change what. So Jingjing secretly found a doctor. She said, I believe Xiao Zhang loves her. It is not easy for two people to get together, but if you want to continue like this, you don’t know what to do in the future. Jingjing also told the doctor that through Xiao Zhang’s unintentional psychological state, he felt that he seemed to be injured by his ex-girlfriend and was completely unwilling to face and do this with real people. Follow-up Jingjing plans to take Xiao Zhang to seek help from a psychologist for psychological treatment.
In life, there are not a few similar cases above. Why is this so?
Why can’t men raise [sexual interest]?
The situation of patient Xiao Zhang is typical of hypolibido, or hypolibido. So, is what hypolibido? To put it simply, it is a kind of sexual dysfunction, with the incidence rate accounting for about 15% of adult males, due to the continuous or repeated intermittent lack of desire for sexual activities, or the lack of desire and interest for sexual intercourse under certain stimulation.
Modern medicine believes that the arousing of sexual desire comes from psychological drive, but it is also a complicated process, which is related to psychological emotion, hormone level, sensory stimulation, and is also influenced by many factors such as age and sexual experience.
The causes of low sexual desire can be divided into psychological and physiological aspects:
Psychological factors are the most common cause of low sexual desire, It accounts for the majority, such as fear of unsuccessful sex life, lack of confidence in oneself, high pressure in work and life, poor living environment, obsession with video games and other things, as well as anxiety, empathy, tension between husband and wife and so on. Even if there are physical problems, some of them will be mixed with psychological reasons.
The generation of sexual desire is also based on physiology. Therefore, physical or physiological factors will also affect sexual desire.
For example, the level of androgen (testosterone) is low, the level of prolactin is high, and thyroid function is low. Hypothalamus-pituitary-adrenal axis abnormality; Suffering from hypertension, diabetes, cerebrovascular diseases and various heart and lung diseases; As well as chronic diseases such as kidney diseases; Or taking certain drugs, especially neuropsychiatric drugs, will affect sexual desire; With the increase of age, sexual ability or demand will gradually weaken.
Some patients feel that they have physiological defects such as short penis and phimosis. Bad habits such as staying up late, drinking too much and smoking can not only make the brain slow to respond to sexual stimulation, but also affect the functions of liver and gonad…
What should I do if I lose my libido?
If hyposexuality occurs, you can go to a regular hospital to sort out your work and life, especially the relationship between husband and wife, and make full communication with doctors.
Doctors will carry out relatively systematic examination according to the specific situation, check the body to know the physical development, whether there are genital abnormalities, etc. In addition to routine examination, it is also possible to carry out examination of hormone levels and other items.
Both husband and wife should make full communication. They can also learn sexual knowledge together, improve their abilities and skills, create an atmosphere together, and concentrate on experiencing a pleasant process.
For example, during the exciting period of intimate contact, full and careful foreplay is very important to [help]. Both parties should understand each other’s excitement, help each other, coordinate emotions and progress, avoid [routine], after the end of sex, also don’t take care of rest, can continue to do some communication, not only physically, but also mentally satisfied, thus improving [sexual interest].
Both sides should give each other understanding and support, not pressure. Don’t be stylized and overemphasize the man’s initiative, the need to complete genital intercourse, and the need to reach orgasm. Otherwise, it will easily bring pressure and make the process boring. It should be noted that a smile and a look at ordinary times can convey love.
Healthy life is very important
A healthy lifestyle is also very important, including several aspects:
(1) the regularity of daily life. In particular, the rule of work and rest is very important. Only when you have sufficient rest and sleep can you not fall into a tired state, and the brain can also make a good response to sexual stimulation and show enough [sexual interest].
(2) Healthy diet and physical exercise. A balanced and diversified diet, Not only can it provide sufficient energy for the body, but it is also a source of nutrients such as protein, vitamins and trace elements. Proper exercise and physical exercise can strengthen the body, relieve mood and build confidence. However, it is necessary to remind that exercise should be moderate to avoid fatigue, especially to avoid injury.
(3) Abstaining from bad habits such as smoking and drinking. Smoking and drinking are risk factors for many diseases, It can not only interfere with the brain’s [information processing] process, affect excitability and inhibit cortex formation, but also directly interfere with endocrine, change hormone level, cause respiratory diseases, damage gastric mucosa, increase the probability of tumor occurrence, etc. Good physical condition is the most basic guarantee condition for completing sexual life.