After many couples have children, there are fewer and fewer discussions on sex life. It seems that when they have children, there is no [sexual happiness].
How can you say you don’t do such an important thing?
Today, please invite obstetricians and gynecologists to tell you directly about some practical skills of sex life after having children.
What if there is no [sexual interest]?
In fact, it is not a big deal for what not to have [sexual interest]. Although sex is a very important part of the relationship between husband and wife, sex is not the only one in intimate relationships.
If you really don’t want it, you can also keep close by increasing communication, taking care of the baby together, hugging, kissing, etc.
In addition, if the mother is not sexually motivated, the father should take the initiative-share the pressure of caring for the baby and find opportunities to create a romantic atmosphere. (Late-night movies can be put on …)
However, if sexual desire is difficult to recover for a long time, and there are also manifestations such as excessive sensitivity, irritability, extreme fatigue, lack of fun, feeling estranged from children, etc., one should be on guard against postpartum depression and seek help from a doctor in time.
The sexual intercourse was not smooth?
After giving birth, changes in hormone levels may make the vagina dry and fragile.
Especially for breast-fed mothers, affected by prolactin, the lubrication of vagina is relatively poor. If it is not fully aroused, the lubrication of vagina is not enough, and pain is easy to occur in sexual life, leading to unsmooth sexual life.
In addition to ensuring sufficient foreplay, such as kissing, caressing and sweet words, which are good foreplay, lubricants can also be considered.
How do you choose the posture?
In fact, the answer is-there is no standard answer.
Everyone has different preferences and feelings. There is no magic posture that can perfectly meet everyone’s needs.
In addition, the children have all been born, and there is no need to be secretive and shy. Think more about tricks and try different postures. Of course, the most important thing is that both sides feel comfortable.
From time to time, there are some changes and new ideas to add more interest to the ordinary life.
However, no matter what the result is, we should fully communicate in the process of trying, try to talk about each other’s favorite posture, foreplay, kissing methods, etc., and understand each other’s likes and dislikes, so as to enjoy each other’s bodies more happily.
Is it normal for pleasure to decrease?
Whether it is caesarean section or natural delivery, pregnancy itself will cause [loss] to the entire pelvic floor tissue including vagina. After giving birth, vaginal muscles will become relaxed and sexual pleasure will decrease.
However, this is usually only temporary and can recover on its own after a few months.
Targeted pelvic floor muscle exercise can not only speed up vaginal recovery, but also has good prevention and treatment effects on stress urinary incontinence, uterine prolapse and other diseases.
For the sake of health and happiness, self-management should also be done. You can try [Kegel Exercise] to exercise pelvic floor muscles. This movement is not difficult at all and can be done anytime and anywhere.
Can I still make out with a second child?
If you are pregnant with a second child now, you can also have sex.
Although most people will have concerns, the statistical results of foreign studies in the past 30 years show that there is no evidence that sex during pregnancy will bring adverse consequences of what to healthy pregnant mothers.
In other words, if you are a healthy pregnant woman and there are no high-risk factors such as premature delivery history, vaginal bleeding, premature rupture of membranes, twin pregnancy, placenta previa, etc., then normal sexual life is not restricted during pregnancy.
However, if you have an inextricable snag in your heart, have a good communication with your husband and understand each other. After unloading, you will be another hero! (Hey, hero? )
What if the number of times becomes less?
After giving birth to the child, some mothers feel that they have less sex than before giving birth and feel very anxious.
However, as the two sides become more and more familiar with each other, it is normal to reduce the number of times. It is difficult to always be as passionate as when they first met. Don’t put pressure on yourself with quantity. Number of times is not the most important, quality is more important than quantity.
Instead of dwelling on the number of times, think about how to improve the quality.