As a new mother, When I heard the first [mother] cry from the child, The heart must be indescribable joy and excitement. However, as the child grows up little by little, our expectation of him is not just a simple [mother]. When we see the mothers around us talking early and complacent for their children, but their babies are [golden mouth is difficult to open], when the mother’s heart must be extremely anxious.
[Why is it that the children in the neighbor’s family are 2 months younger than us and can already communicate with adults without obstacles? ]
[Why do children always prefer to express their needs with their body eyes, but do not like to speak? ]
[Why is my child almost 2.5 years old, or can only speak two words, not a coherent sentence? ]
In fact, before asking these questions, as parents, perhaps we should first reflect on ourselves: on the way to guide our children to learn to speak, have we ever laughed at their children because they said something wrong? Have you been eager for success and lacked enough patience? Have you given the most timely encouragement when your child makes progress?
The baby has been talking since what?
Usually, babies will start to utter some vague words at the age of 9 months, and some children may clearly shout “father” or “mother”. By the age of two, they will usually say at least 20 words and a simple sentence of two to three words.
What needs to be reminded is that this is only the average level of children’s language development, because of individual differences, it is not surprising that different babies’ language development is uneven.
In fact, as long as the delay is within six months, there is no need to be too anxious.
If you are really worried about your child’s slow language development due to some physiological reasons, it is recommended to seek the help of a professional doctor in time.
What are the points to pay attention to when teaching children to speak?
Step 1 Be patient and wait for the flowers to bloom
The blooming of every little flower, It takes enough time, Care and cultivation with heart. Therefore, The process of children learning to speak, What is needed most is the patience and companionship of his parents. Perhaps he is not used to using language to communicate with you at the beginning, but as he grows up day by day, in your natural interaction, one day, he will eventually embed the necessary survival skill of speaking into his small world, just like eating and sleeping, so natural and simple.
Story Sharing
At the beginning, my son Tong Tong and my best friend’s daughter Yi Yi both spoke later than their peers, People about the same age can read idioms, The two children were often flushed with nervousness, Can’t even say a word, But now, they have been completely able to communicate freely and express their thoughts smoothly. Before that, in order to let them learn to speak as soon as possible, my best friend and I didn’t do less homework. My best friend even thought of helping Iraq to enroll in a small host class. She thought that letting Iraq contact more with talking children would make her learn to speak faster.
But then, Another mother told her, [Don’t worry, take your time, she will call her parents, will call her family, will simply say a word or two, that shows that her language expression ability is no problem. She is now in the initial stage of learning to speak, you have to help her to enroll in the small host class, and stay with children who are too strong in speaking ability, do you think it is appropriate for her? Will it hit her heart, make her feel inferior and become more silent? ]
Facts have proved that the mother’s suggestion is correct, because from then on, the two children spoke later than the children of the same age, but now they are completely like little adults talking. You see, what’s wrong with talking later? People just want to think more and practice more in their hearts.
2. Support and encourage him
In the little world of children, You are the standard of his words and deeds, Your attitude determines his enthusiasm for learning to speak. Your support and encouragement, It is the biggest motivation for him. Just like all learning processes, on the way to learning to speak, children will be afraid and hesitant, and will also make mistakes that you think are [stupid] because they are not familiar with. When these happen, don’t worry, please give him sincere support and encouragement, and then give him correct guidance.
3. Combine teaching with pleasure and run [teaching] through daily life.
In fact, as long as you are willing, you will find that there are many opportunities in daily life to teach children how to speak.
In the first season of “Daddy’s Back”, we can see that the famous handsome boy Wu Zun has completely integrated [teaching his daughter to speak Chinese] into his daily eating, sleeping, playing and studying. Sugar is of what color? Can you count from one to ten in Chinese? How do you answer when you receive the gift? It can be seen that his precious daughter readily accepts this [teaching method] and is also very active in learning. This is far simpler and happier than cramming education.
4. Don’t be a strong parent and create a cheerful and relaxed atmosphere for family communication.
[This is a water cup. You can drink water or milk.]
[Eat broccoli, don’t be picky about food.]
This [giving orders] communication method may help children learn the expression of some sentences, but it is not the best communication method.
Why don’t you try to change your tone? In the same way, we can also say this:
[Baby, do you think this cup is more suitable for drinking water or milk? [Taste it and tell your mother, is broccoli better than beef, or is it bad? ]
Ask and answer, this is the real communication. In this kind of communication, children can take the initiative to choose, have the possibility to play creative, also will have the desire to take the initiative to communicate. At the same time, such communication can also make the parent-child relationship become more intimate.
5. Civilized language, starting with dolls.
Children in early childhood are like a blank sheet of paper. Their speech habits and tone will imitate adults. Therefore, don’t swear in front of children.
My good friend told me, A child in his son’s class used to say such dirty words, Let the teacher a little unbearable. The teacher was afraid that he would bring the other children in the kindergarten bad, so he went to make a home visit. Through the home visit, he found that the father of the child was a foul-mouthed person, and even if he saw the teacher, he did not have any restraint. Growing up in such an environment is really embarrassing for the children…
6. Make iPad [Electronic Teacher]
Many parents regard TV and iPad as “natural enemies” for fear that their children will become addicted. In fact, parents need not be too nervous. As long as they make good use of it, iPad can also become an electronic teacher.
Parents can selectively show their children some cartoons, such as < Piggy Peggy > >, < Deformed Police Car Perry > >, etc. These cartoons are simple and lively in painting style, humorous and easy to understand in character dialogue, and the plot of the story also has certain educational significance.
Watching such cartoons, It is very helpful for children to learn to speak, It can also let children follow the characters in cartoons and form good living habits from an early age. Parents only need to control the time they watch each time. For example, for children over the age of 3, one episode per day, or no more than 30 minutes per day. Tung Tong is a loyal fan of Peggy Piggy and often calls me Mother Piggy.
Story Sharing
Last weekend, I took my son Tong Tong and my best friend’s daughter Yi Yi to learn swimming together. The two children, who are only one month short, will officially become freshmen in the kindergarten class in September this year. As soon as they met, they [spoke surprisingly].
Yi Yi: [Beginning of life, sex is good. Sex is similar, learning is far away…]
[Wow, I haven’t seen you for more than a month. Iraq is so powerful that it can already recite the Three-Character Sutra? After listening to what I said, Iraq’s little face immediately burst into a proud expression and said, “This is what I learned when watching cartoons.”
Tung Tong said, “Well, it’s a piece of cake.”
[It’s a piece of cake? Where did you learn it? I don’t seem to have taught you this idiom. ]
[Just what Piggy Peggy saw, Mom, you are a little stupid, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha…]
Only when children feel the infinite charm of language and the beauty and fun of communication can they truly open their hearts and fall in love with speaking from the heart.