After the child has suffered such abusive injuries, the most important first thing for parents is to take him out of the traumatic environment.
Many children will repeatedly tell their parents that they are not willing to go to kindergarten at the moment of the incident. However, it is not necessarily possible to say why. Parents should be highly sensitive at such times. They can check their children’s bodies and guide their children to say what happened to what in kindergarten. This is a good way to find out the abuse and injury in the first place and let the children out of this environment as soon as possible.
It is very important to make children feel safe at home while dealing with this matter.
Because injured children may have a lot of fears and worries, In such an emotional state, he may have some memories of past events, or begin to doubt whether the home is safe. Parents need to be careful when taking care of their children through such experiences. If their emotions are very unstable, beating and scolding their children often will easily activate their children’s feeling of being hurt.
Generally speaking, there are two ways to deal with it:
- Based on the fact that children are more inclined to forget trauma, on the basis of the original events, many children begin to show some intrusive memories or flashbacks, but with the establishment of a safe upbringing environment, children will slowly forget this matter. Some children will have nightmares, which carry the expression of their fears. Or the child will regard some household items as symbols of past injuries. For example, some children will bet this fear on a doll or toy, and he will think this is bad. In the face of these performances, The parents had better respect their children, The child is forgetting the trauma in his own way. If the child doesn’t want to talk about it, Then I suggest that parents should not force their children to recall it over and over again. If parents are very worried, the better way is to take their children to a special hospital, do game therapy, sand table therapy, or express it through painting. Many children’s trauma will be solved in this type of treatment.
- If the child’s original character is more lively and willing to express it in words, Then parents can when their children mention this matter themselves, Ask him how he felt at that time. Children may say many emotional words such as [pain, fear, missing mother…], At the same time, it may be accompanied by crying. So parents hold their children at this time, Listen carefully. After the child has expressed these emotions and cried, You can touch his back, Gently tell him that [mother (father) knows, the baby is very sad, now you are safe, and we will protect you in the future] such words, while maintaining the same emotional state with the baby, not every parent has to say the same words, but according to the child’s expression, conveying the same response as him will make the child feel that someone is with him.
To sum up, take corresponding measures according to the child’s personality characteristics. Don’t force the child to be the most appropriate treatment for parents at this time, but keep in line with him.
If you feel that your child is affected by the incident, you must take the child to the hospital for evaluation at this time.
What parents can do is actually the function of Band-Aid. Small wounds can be handled by themselves. If they are closed up, they will be fine. However, the wounds are relatively large and the time is not long enough. Doctors and professionals are required to see if there are more complicated reasons to deal with.