Today’s mother is like Superman, taking her to work at the same time. Even if the work is hard, the moment you push the door open and see the child, the OS in your heart will be:
The old mother loves you! ] [Collagen on your face! [What a good-looking man! [This is the best child in the world! [Give Mommy a sip! [What an angel! [My child is so cute, isn’t he? ]
As long as the child gives an angelic look, the exhaustion of the mothers will be instantly dispelled and super-cured.
Because of work, I can’t accompany my children often and want to have warm parent-child time. What should I do? Working mothers can also give their children high-quality warm companionship by making reasonable use of fragmented time.
High-quality companionship is really important to growth.
Although many parents are with their children, the quality of companionship is not high.
More than 70 percent of parents spend only four hours a day with their children, excluding their children’s sleep time, according to the survey. Of these four hours, 40 percent of the time parents are mechanically accompanying their children, playing mobile phones or computer games, and 30 percent of the time parents are tutoring their children in their studies.
Later, parents will only spend the remaining nearly half an hour communicating with their children. However, most of the communication is mainly about [education].
Clearly with company, the child is not satisfied?
Yesterday, an old friend whom I haven’t seen for a long time talked to me about her children. She said:
Over the past few years, I have been busy with my work. Recently, I took a special leave from my leader, thinking that my child would not have to go to school during the May Day holiday, so I could just take him to have a good time for a few days.
But in the past two days of playing outside, the children are not willing to take a reason to me. When he plays himself, he is also limp and has no happy appearance. It was originally a good thing. How did it become like this?
There is no time to accompany the children to grow up, the children are unwilling to talk to themselves, and the children are not close to or even alienated from themselves, which has become the pain of many parents in the workplace.
Most parents either [want to accompany but don’t have time to accompany], or [want to accompany but don’t know how to accompany], or [accompany is equal to not accompany].
In fact, quality is far more important than duration to accompany children.
This quality lies in whether you can devote yourself to the coexistence with your children and have empathy with them.
Let the child know how important he is in your heart, so as to get the satisfaction of love and being loved psychologically.
These four points are very important to want high-quality company.
1. Give children a certain sense of ceremony and deepen their memory of accompanying them.
< < the little prince > > said ritual feeling: [it is to make one day different from other days, that is, one moment is different from other moments.]
Many working parents don’t have much time to accompany their children. They can give their children a certain sense of ceremony in life and let them deeply remember a certain moment when they get along with their parents.
For example, every day before going out, I would hug my child and let him kiss me on the cheek. Every night before going to bed, I would say “good night, I love you” to my child.
These actions and words do not take too much time, but they can make children feel loved and look forward to every period of time with their parents.
2. Listen more and criticize less, and accompany the children in the way they need.
Perhaps you think that buying all kinds of delicious and fun for your child is high-quality companionship, but in fact, sometimes the child just wants you to look at him gently, talk to him and be with him.
When the child is concentrating on playing with toys, you don’t need to disturb the child. There is no need to deliberately brush the sense of presence in order to accompany the child.
And when children show us their game results, we should give a positive response in time: [Wow, how did you do it? ], [This looks so cool, please teach your mother] or [This place is hard to find, you must have carefully observed it just now! ] …
Only by accompanying the child in the way he needs can the company be more effective.
3. Make yourself interesting and play with him in the way of a child.
Learning to return your childlike innocence is a good way to accompany you with high quality. The family has a baby of small age, you can play building blocks and games together. Parents with big babies can do handicrafts, knead plasticine, play house, etc. with their children.
Accompanying does not necessarily mean teaching children what. In the process of playing, let the baby be the master of the game and even let him teach you how to play. Your role is to assist and listen.
4. Do one thing with your child. In fact, your mother also needs your baby to accompany her.
When you get home from work, you can invite your child to do one thing with you next.
This must be something children can imitate, participate in and accomplish together with you, such as helping you wash dishes and cook, folding clothes, etc.
Put down your cell phone, put aside your work, and have no external disturbances. I would rather spend half an hour with you than an hour with negativity and perfunctory. To tell the truth, it is much happier for everyone to work together than for a person to work silently and hard.
According to a study by Harvard Business School, compared with a gorgeous meal or an occasional trip, a bowl of noodles served by parents and a small story told before going to bed can touch children’s hearts and make them remember it for a moment.
Don’t think it is a task to accompany your children. In fact, companionship is mutual, and it is also very healing for your children to accompany you after a tired day. Mothers all need the company of their babies, and getting along with them can relieve the pressure of their work.
There is a limit to the time every child spends with his parents. The time he needs you to accompany him is not as long as you think, so every parent should cherish the time he spends with his baby.