Every time I eat out, I can always hear some familiar feeding sayings:
Do you want to eat? Take the last three bites? If you don’t eat, you will become ugly! If you don’t eat well, you will become stupid. Do you listen to your mother or not?
Have you ever felt that a child’s meal is like a stone in your heart. When the meal is finished, the stone will fall to the ground.
I don’t know from when, in dealing with the problem of children refusing to eat, a big move has been popular among the people and has been forwarded by various mother and infant tubas:
So [Hungry Him] Is It Really the Ultimate Way to Save Poor Families? Let’s further analyze how to do it correctly through two cases.
[Hungry Him] Is it omnipotent?
My good friend Q’s mother, when she saw these two words, her eyes glowed and she felt that her child was [saved] and decided to try this move immediately.
But two days later, she said to me gloomily, “My son has a fever. No wonder he had a bad appetite a while ago. I still starved him indiscriminately and felt like a stepmother…”
The so-called [hunger therapy]: It is aimed at correcting the baby’s bad eating habits, such as eating and playing with toys, watching TV, running around, chasing and feeding, and loving snacks. Hunger therapy is not a punishment or a privilege for adults, but a gradual, gentle and powerful way to make the baby aware of hunger.
Hungry him is not blindly hungry. Especially during the period when the child is ill, uses tableware as a toy, and feels resistant to the food he has eaten in the past, you will only make the child feel resistant and regret if you starve him again.
Therefore, before starving him, we must first make it clear that what is the root cause of the child’s reluctance to eat.
Is it milk addiction? Or is it a bad eating habit? Or is it a preference for snacks?
In fact, these can be corrected through certain methods and efforts, but loss of appetite caused by diseases and partial eating, picky eating and pica caused by lack of zinc and iron trace elements must be excluded.
What if the child refuses to eat?
L mother’s daughter has been chased by grandma since she was one and a half years old, because she refused to eat 3 mouthfuls of rice by herself. L mother also flew into a rage for her daughter’s eating problems and often suffered from headaches and insomnia. Finally, she learned from the bitter experience and combined with her daughter’s own actual situation, summed up the following operation guidelines and finally succeeded in practice:
Step 1 Make an appointment before meals
Tell the child seriously: OK, we are going to start eating. We will start eating together. When we have all eaten up, the meal will be a happy end. If you don’t eat well, you can only wait for the next meal. If you are hungry in the middle, there is no extra food for you to eat.
After informing the child completely, wait for the child’s confirmation response.
Step 2: Concentrate your child’s attention
Take your child to choose a favorite dining chair, and take/turn off everything that may attract your child’s attention and lead to meal failure, such as toys, TV, etc.
3. Choose your child’s favorite tableware
Prepare 1 ~ 2 sets of tableware with his favorite figures for his child. If he has time, try to make some lovely dishes and try to let him learn to eat by himself. Eating by oneself is more interesting and fragrant than feeding by others.
Step 4 Be patient
What should I do if I can’t finish eating 3 mouthfuls and clamor for other things? As a parent, you need to be patient. You can pretend to eat big and exaggerated meals, or try to let your child feed you one bite and then feed yourself one bite. Slowly, your child’s patience in eating will be regained and you will form a good habit of eating independently.
5. Make an appointment after dinner to practice it.
It may be difficult to implement it at the beginning, but when the meal time is over, you must implement it according to the original agreement confirmed with the child, so that he can see with his own eyes that you have emptied all the unfinished food in his bowl.
6. No fruit/snack compensation
Ensure that between two meals, he will not be given extra compensation such as fruits/snacks for not eating well in the last meal. He will definitely quarrel, it is normal to quarrel, but when quarrelling, his heart will also be impacted, slowly understand that if he does not eat well, he will starve. The taste of starvation is not pleasant.
In the process of trying [hunger therapy], Mother L also became a gourmet sensation because she kept learning supplementary food practices, and her daughter gradually developed a good living habit of [eating well].
Children don’t eat, the responsibility lies with parents.
No one is born without food. As a parent, you must know your children’s living habits best, and you can also use exclusion method to find out the root cause of children’s refusal to eat well.
Is it partial eclipse? Is there too much fruit snack at ordinary times? Or is the eating environment at home not very good? Only by finding the pain point of the problem can we prescribe the right medicine. Otherwise, the most popular methods will fail.
Finally, a child’s small appetite does not mean that he is not good at eating, and wolfing down is not the only criterion for eating well. It is not necessary for what to love eating, which is clever. If all his friends are durian-controlled, but you just don’t love it. Is this your fault?
Whether it is eating habits or from the nutritional level to consider, only to ensure regular eating, meat and vegetable collocation, staple food complementary food scientific ratio, according to the actual appetite of the child to consider, can applaud good eating. In this way, whether the child is mainly responsible for eating well, or is it on the parents, not the child himself, do you think?