I still remember when the baby was still in his belly, we were looking forward to the early birth of this little life every day and wanted to see his lovely little appearance as soon as possible.
Everything seems so eager that we feel that we have made all kinds of preparations.
However, the reality caught us off guard. From the moment the baby was born, [unexpected situations] followed:
Why did the baby cry again? What the hell went wrong?
There is not enough breast milk, do you want to add milk powder?
Mother-in-law and mother-in-law all have different opinions. Who do I listen to?
How many times have we dragged our tired bodies on the sofa (bed) [Ge You collapsed], with straight eyes and empty heads: perhaps, I am really not ready to be a mother (father)…
Let’s put down our anxiety and look at foreign parents. It is how’s experience and advice to novice parents:
First thing: Believe in yourself
In the process of bringing up children, we can always hear different voices, [what should you do], [what should you not do], which makes us at a loss.
In fact, everyone has a set of their own opinions on how to raise children. They don’t have to pay too much attention to other people’s opinions. They don’t have to check Baidu’s experience in other people’s homes.
Believe that you are doing the right thing and believe in your instinct as a parent!
The second thing: make a schedule
Taking babies is a very hectic and complicated process. If you want to be more relaxed, you must make all kinds of plans. What you fear most is the idea of “Shunzi Nature”. Try to make a child-rearing schedule for yourself. Try to adjust your child’s sleep, diet and play regularly, so that parents will be more relaxed.
The third thing: leave your own time and space.
After having a baby, we will almost say goodbye to our past selves. Our private life has almost completely come to naught.
Ding Ma heard the most whining of the newborn parents around her:
[I’m dying of exhaustion! [I haven’t seen the play for half a year] [I can only sleep for three hours intermittently at night. I really want to sleep all night …]
Remember, only by taking good care of yourself can you take better care of your children. Don’t be so strict with yourself. Give yourself a vacation when you are too tired. You will find that you are resurrected with blood again!
The fourth thing: Be prepared to accept all possibilities for change.
Although article 2 refers to a plan with a timetable. But! ! ! The daily life of taking baby is always [the plan has not changed fast]!
Wala stinks when she wants to go out, and she gets sick when she plans to go out to play … Even if her parents make plans and schedules, they will be caught off guard by the [wayward] baby.
So, don’t panic, don’t worry, take a deep breath with Ding Ma, deal with it slowly, one by one, and tell yourself that this is the best arrangement (my own) ~
The fifth thing: Every baby is unique.
Most of the time, we will unconsciously compare our children with other children. Why is he so naughty and disobedient? Why is she not as lively as other children? Please don’t lose heart, every baby is a unique angel.
Our parents’ mission is to discover his advantages and help him become the person he wants to be.
The sixth thing: Prepare some newborn supplies
This must needless to say, material preparation is also very necessary, hurry to take this opportunity to buy buy ha ha ha ha! However, please be sure to be rational when chopping your hands! Reason!
The seventh thing: Keep some small clothes your baby has worn.
Time is fast, in the blink of an eye, the little baby in my arms can already talk and stagger, go to kindergarten, go to primary school… think about it, when the baby grows up, when we touch the little clothes, the original hard work and sweetness are so worth nostalgia…
SO, keep a few small clothes for your baby in each period as proof of the growth of your child and parents.
Eighth thing: always stay optimistic
The most difficult thing in the world is to be a parent. It is no exaggeration to say that it challenges the limits of human energy.
Sometimes, you may not be able to handle your child’s affairs perfectly after trying hard, and your child’s performance may still make people collapse. But please don’t lose patience, time will tell you that all your efforts are worth it.
The ninth thing: Don’t be too demanding of yourself
[Be a perfect parent], everyone hopes so. It is normal to have emotions during the process of taking care of her. We don’t need to feel guilty or incompetent. We are human beings, not gods.
When tired to collapse and busy to freak out, give yourself a hug and gently tell yourself: “It’s okay, I’m an ordinary person, I’m tired, I can have a rest now. The clothes will be washed later and the toys will be collected later. All these things are not as important as mine.”
Number 10: Be prepared to give the love you have never given before.
The last thing is also the most important thing.
Be prepared to give the love you have never given so much, it will be the best thing you have ever done in your life!
Finally, I would like to say to you-
