The benefits of taking her out to play can’t be said out in a day, but [the plan is perfect and the reality is very bony], when taking her out to play, she will always come back disappointed for one reason or another.
Why is this? Today, Dr. Clove invited Teacher Tang Wei, the second treasure mother, to bring this article, hoping to give some inspiration to parents.
Unhappy on Ferris Wheel
Last Saturday night, I took my baby to Shijingshan Playground to play. The Ferris wheel queuing area was packed with people. The queue lasted for an hour.
We also have a mother and son in the same cabin. The son is almost 2 years old. My baby is very excited and keeps looking around on the railing. The opposite mother also excitedly took out her mobile phone and moved to the cabin.
Baby, baby, come and look! It’s beautiful out there!
The child did not move, and his eyes were fixed on the TV screen in the pod and watched with relish. It turns out that the picture is the children’s favorite cartoon.
Don’t watch cartoons, baby, don’t you have them all at home. Stand here quickly and your mother will take one for you!
The child still did not move. The mother was a little worried and went to pull the child’s arm. The child twisted and said no.
Cartoons have good looks in what! We waited in line for an hour to get on the Ferris wheel! You don’t even look! I knew you wouldn’t take you out to play like this!
The child cried, the mother was angry and embarrassed, half coaxed and half persuaded, and the child was still coy…
The next ten minutes or so were almost all spent in the mother’s chanting and the child’s [silence]. The child finally turned his eyes to the outside of the cabin and looked unhappy…
Such a scene is really no stranger.
Almost every parent met: they had prepared a good play plan, and finally their interest was disturbed because the baby [lost face].
Are you with Eva or Eva with you?
You want to show him the blue sea and sky, but as a result he is busy playing with sand.
You want to show him places of interest, but he is sleeping in the cart.
You want to show him world famous paintings. What interests him most is running around in the exhibition hall.
He wanted to take him to eat local food, but he didn’t even give you a chance to try.
… …
Then you feel [not worth], and then [angry].
Why does the child always stay away from us?
In fact, behind our unhappiness, it is because the development of things has not met our expectations.
We think we are taking the baby out to play, but in fact, he is just following you out to play.
Does he really like it? Is he the one who wants to play? Or do you want to play? Perhaps, you only care about the scenic spots that you are interested in, perfunctory your baby’s questions, and even [play for the sake of showing your circle of friends]-look down at your mobile phone, take pictures of scenery with your mobile phone, take selfies to catch photos, and be busy editing pictures on your mobile phone and sending friends…
The baby is not [losing face], but really doesn’t like it.
Take her out to have fun and do these three things.
1. Have a heart to adapt to changes.
The higher our expectation of the trip, the greater our disappointment. It is normal for children to think one thing at a time.
Therefore, be prepared for change, even [for the worst].
It is OK to decide to take Eva out to play, but it is up to Eva to play what, as long as there is no danger, don’t force the child.
Take myself for example. When the baby was one and a half years old, we went to Luoyang Museum to play. He liked the elephant fossil at the entrance of the first exhibition hall very much. He kept wandering around and did not want to move his legs at all. So his father and I took turns to visit the exhibits on our own and accompanied him to play beside the elephant fossil for an hour.
He is interested in all his games, of course he is very happy!
STEP 2 Don’t make your schedule too tight
Some parents have full plans for every trip, and there is no room for mistakes in the middle, let alone babies. Even adults feel too tired.
If it is a trip, try not to travel with a group. Even if you don’t travel far away to play in the city, you’d better adopt the principle of “half a day to play, half a day to rest, half a day outdoors and half a day indoors”. For example, when I take my baby to Nanjing, I go to the music station in the morning and Nanjing Museum in the afternoon. In the morning, I went to Confucius Temple and in the afternoon, I went to the supermarket. I went to see Qinhuai River in the morning and went back to the hotel to rest in the afternoon.
The schedule must take good care of the baby’s work and rest. It is too compact and tired. The child [can’t sleep on his back]. The work and rest are chaotic and the resistance is low. It is also easy to get sick.
3. Respect your baby’s preferences and experiences
If you want to choose a destination to play, you’d better find a place your children like or suitable.
Too lively a baby may not be suitable for a quiet art exhibition. Babies who often run away may not be suitable for going to markets mixed with good and evil people. What’s babies stuffed into their mouths may not be suitable for indoor amusement parks with a large number of people…
In addition, sometimes when I reach my destination, I find that my baby doesn’t like it, just like the mother and son of the Ferris wheel in front of me. At this time, my advice is: let him go and he will be happy.
For babies, the charm of night scenes may not be as good as cartoons, the charm of the sea, or a handful of gravel.
Finally, for parents, it is already very rare to accompany the baby, respect his feelings and provide fresh stimulation. For babies, it is also really happy to have their parents’ company, to be able to do things that interest them and to come into contact with new and interesting things.
Whether it costs tens of thousands of international trips, hundreds of amusement parks, or even free parks and museums, it is really not so important to babies.
Just be happy.