Tag: Psychology

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Emotional Eating: War between Food and Emotion

Does stress, anger or sadness make you want to eat? Or will you seek comfort from food when you are bored? Many people will. If you often eat emotionally instead of eating because you are hungry, it may be a problem for you. Obeying the impulse to overeat will undoubtedly make you fat. Especially if you already have diabetes, obesity or hypertension, the problem will be more serious. It’s not just a matter of food anymore. Often you don’t even realize that you are eating emotionally. One of the most obvious signs is that you stop when you feel very strong or your stomach is uncomfortable. Another sign is that you find that you have gained weight, but you don’t Read More …

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The child has a strong personality, and be careful that the more he manages, the more

There is a child with an easy-going temper and a good attitude in the family. It doesn’t matter if parents don’t understand how’s rules for their children. However, if the child’s personality is too strong, parents need to know scientific and reasonable guidance methods. The way of education is wrong, and children will not obey when they grow up. If the child’s personality is too strong, when the parents will have nothing to do, they may leave the stubborn child aside, but they still cry. It is not enough to take back some promises given to them. Anyway, the child is angry and what doesn’t care. After all kinds of methods have been tried, discipline may eventually turn into quarrels Read More …

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Always suspected that he was ill? This is a disease in itself

Mark has always been very annoyed: he has no appetite for food, his stomach is still full of flatulence, sometimes his chest is still painful, and he is weak and listless all day long. He often went to a nearby hospital for a comprehensive examination N times, but there was still no problem. This is nothing, more exasperating, and a doctor told him to go to a mental hospital to have a look! Mark couldn’t help scolding in his heart: “To a mental hospital? You are sick, your whole family is sick! ] Is Mark suffering from what? There was a group of people, They pay special attention to their health, For example, they will check the color of tongue Read More …

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Road Anger: Invisible Killer on the Road

Recently, the incident of Chengdu women being beaten on other cars has caused a lot of uproar on the Internet. From this incident, it can be seen that besides the visible [female driver], the killer on the road actually has an invisible [road rage]. What is road rage? [Road Rage], in short, is to encounter unpleasant things in the process of driving, resulting in uncontrollable and furious behaviors, and even leading to the tragedy of illegal and criminal activities and car damage and death. The word first appeared in American publications in the 1980s and was included in the Oxford Dictionary in 1997. Many people think that road rage is a complete manifestation of [poor quality], but it is not. Read More …

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Ten questions in the family education survey attended by 40,000 Chinese are worth pondering.

At the end of last year, the China Academy of Educational Sciences released the results of a family education survey of 20,000 parents and 20,000 primary school students in Beijing, Heilongjiang, Jiangxi and Shandong provinces and cities. The report overturned the understanding that parents used to think about in the past and paid attention to 10 issues that we had to think about. Question 1: The ultimate goal, [becoming a useful person] or [becoming an adult]? The survey shows that parents give priority to realistic factors and pay less attention to developmental factors. Parents are most concerned about their children’s health and safety (66%), followed by habit formation (56%) and daily learning (54%), while they pay relatively little attention to Read More …

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These imperative words may [destroy] your child.

In the past 10 years of counseling and treatment experience, I have taken over a large number of psychological counseling cases. No matter adults or children, all kinds of problems in them can clearly see the imprint of parents’ parenting style on children. Some parents may think [destroying children] is alarmist talk. They will think: How can I harm children? However, many parents are inadvertently doing things to hurt their children in the name of love. If parents can consciously avoid those possible harmful behaviors from the very beginning of raising their children, raising children will become a process for children and parents to grow up together. I will write some things that parents must avoid in the process of Read More …

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The child’s grades are not very good, is it really just not hard enough? What should parents do?

Parents all want to have a clever child. The child’s performance development is uneven, so he hurried to extra-curricular classes for fear of losing at the starting line. Parents’ desire for their children’s success is understandable, but if the method is not correct and forced to instill, they always feel that their children are just not working hard enough, which is likely to really delay their development. Although most parents are unwilling to admit it, due to fierce competition, sometimes parents’ demands on their children may have exceeded their children’s abilities, and some children are not so [smart] by nature. In addition, there are a few children who may have congenital structural or functional problems in the brain, i.e. Mental Read More …

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Is it a how experience for an only child to upgrade to a parent?

In fact, the first generation of only children are now in their 30s and many have become parents. In the cases I took over here, the parents of the only child came to consult more and more, which often made me feel that the child had a child. The following is a summary of the eight common problems of such parents for reference. If there are some, they will correct them; If there are no, they will encourage them. First, there is an awakening of independence and no ability to be independent. Case 1: The daughter-in-law lives in her in-laws’ house. She bought a duplex when she bought the house and wrote her son’s name. The old couple live downstairs, Read More …