Tag: Parent-Child

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Ten questions in the family education survey attended by 40,000 Chinese are worth pondering.

At the end of last year, the China Academy of Educational Sciences released the results of a family education survey of 20,000 parents and 20,000 primary school students in Beijing, Heilongjiang, Jiangxi and Shandong provinces and cities. The report overturned the understanding that parents used to think about in the past and paid attention to 10 issues that we had to think about. Question 1: The ultimate goal, [becoming a useful person] or [becoming an adult]? The survey shows that parents give priority to realistic factors and pay less attention to developmental factors. Parents are most concerned about their children’s health and safety (66%), followed by habit formation (56%) and daily learning (54%), while they pay relatively little attention to Read More …

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These imperative words may [destroy] your child.

In the past 10 years of counseling and treatment experience, I have taken over a large number of psychological counseling cases. No matter adults or children, all kinds of problems in them can clearly see the imprint of parents’ parenting style on children. Some parents may think [destroying children] is alarmist talk. They will think: How can I harm children? However, many parents are inadvertently doing things to hurt their children in the name of love. If parents can consciously avoid those possible harmful behaviors from the very beginning of raising their children, raising children will become a process for children and parents to grow up together. I will write some things that parents must avoid in the process of Read More …

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How to set [family rules] so that children will not oppose you?

Ask yourself, raising a few children and living a life of husband and son have never been my ideal in life. As for the fact that there are two babies, I have always had a strong sense of unreality. I will look at these two balls of meat and think in a trance. Is this really my birth? Ashamed to say, I am a mother with a very big nerve, and I am especially evasive about all kinds of bottle diaper theories. My baby has always been not very fine. At least [the first baby is raised by reading and the second baby is raised as a pig], and all the two small animals in our family are the result Read More …

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The addition of supplementary foods is exquisite, and the timing is not right and there are many hazards.

Is it appropriate for babies to start adding supplementary foods in what? WHO recommends: Healthy full-term babies: 6 months is the best time to introduce supplementary food; Some fast-growing babies: supplementary foods can be introduced slightly in advance, but not earlier than 4 months or not later than 8 months. Therefore, for the average baby, it is best to breast-feed before 6 months. Those who cannot be exclusively breast-fed can be mixed or artificially fed, but supplementary foods are recommended for 6 months. Does what pay attention to the order of adding supplementary foods? Principle of Adding Supplementary Foods 1. Priority should be given to the introduction of iron-containing supplementary foods. According to the latest Australian baby feeding proposal, babies Read More …

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If you are very busy, you can also become a good father.

In today’s society, due to the fierce competition for survival, fathers in ordinary families are busy working hard, and the important task of caring for families and educating children mostly falls on the shoulders of mothers alone. However, the weakening or disappearance of the role of fathers caused by this is very unfavorable to the growth of children. As a competent father, how should we improve? My wife sometimes criticizes me. He said that although I studied developmental psychology, I did not do many things that were beneficial to my children. In and out of my words, I was criticized for being superficial. Perhaps in her eyes, I am like many young fathers in China: In the matter of taking Read More …

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Can I play with my cell phone when I am with my baby? Come here to find the answer

Novice parents always have lingering anxiety in their hearts. This kind of anxiety is good to some extent, because it can make us constantly search for and learn all kinds of parenting knowledge, but it also tends to lead us to the other extreme: excessive anxiety, so that we are timid. Of course I was anxious too! If it weren’t for anxiety, I wouldn’t have collected a large amount of public official information, wouldn’t have doubts about any so-called expert’s arguments, and wouldn’t have shared and disseminated knowledge that I have verified to be reliable. Looking back on my own journey with Macey over the past year, the first tangle I encountered was: Can we play with our mobile phones Read More …