Tag: Family Education

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Ten questions in the family education survey attended by 40,000 Chinese are worth pondering.

At the end of last year, the China Academy of Educational Sciences released the results of a family education survey of 20,000 parents and 20,000 primary school students in Beijing, Heilongjiang, Jiangxi and Shandong provinces and cities. The report overturned the understanding that parents used to think about in the past and paid attention to 10 issues that we had to think about. Question 1: The ultimate goal, [becoming a useful person] or [becoming an adult]? The survey shows that parents give priority to realistic factors and pay less attention to developmental factors. Parents are most concerned about their children’s health and safety (66%), followed by habit formation (56%) and daily learning (54%), while they pay relatively little attention to Read More …

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These imperative words may [destroy] your child.

In the past 10 years of counseling and treatment experience, I have taken over a large number of psychological counseling cases. No matter adults or children, all kinds of problems in them can clearly see the imprint of parents’ parenting style on children. Some parents may think [destroying children] is alarmist talk. They will think: How can I harm children? However, many parents are inadvertently doing things to hurt their children in the name of love. If parents can consciously avoid those possible harmful behaviors from the very beginning of raising their children, raising children will become a process for children and parents to grow up together. I will write some things that parents must avoid in the process of Read More …

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How to set [family rules] so that children will not oppose you?

Ask yourself, raising a few children and living a life of husband and son have never been my ideal in life. As for the fact that there are two babies, I have always had a strong sense of unreality. I will look at these two balls of meat and think in a trance. Is this really my birth? Ashamed to say, I am a mother with a very big nerve, and I am especially evasive about all kinds of bottle diaper theories. My baby has always been not very fine. At least [the first baby is raised by reading and the second baby is raised as a pig], and all the two small animals in our family are the result Read More …

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Is it a how experience for an only child to upgrade to a parent?

In fact, the first generation of only children are now in their 30s and many have become parents. In the cases I took over here, the parents of the only child came to consult more and more, which often made me feel that the child had a child. The following is a summary of the eight common problems of such parents for reference. If there are some, they will correct them; If there are no, they will encourage them. First, there is an awakening of independence and no ability to be independent. Case 1: The daughter-in-law lives in her in-laws’ house. She bought a duplex when she bought the house and wrote her son’s name. The old couple live downstairs, Read More …