The microblog of the past two days was swept by a tragedy.
At about 20 o’clock on August 31, a pregnant woman expecting to give birth in Yulin, Shaanxi Province fell from the upstairs and died.
A 26-year-old expectant mother was about to welcome a new little life, but with deep fear of the pain of natural childbirth, she chose to jump down and end her life.
Judging from the statement issued by the hospital where the parturient was located, the parturient lost control of her emotions due to her fear of pain in childbirth.
Parturient (Ma) during childbirth, due to pain and dysphoria, forced to leave the waiting room many times, asked the family members for cesarean section, the competent doctor, midwife, department director also put forward cesarean section suggestions to the family members, all of which were rejected by the family members. Finally, the parturient jumped out of control due to unbearable pain.
The “informed consent form for lying-in women to be hospitalized” presented by the hospital has the signatures of the family members.
However, the pregnant woman’s family members said otherwise, saying that it was true that his wife had mentioned many times that she could not bear it. She had also proposed a caesarean section, but the hospital said that it was not necessary.
At present, the hospital and the family members hold different opinions. I believe everything will come to light with the investigation by the relevant departments.
Who is in charge of the fate of the parturient,
There is a detail in the incident, which especially saddens Dr. Clove.
Both the hospital and the family members of the parturient mentioned that [the parturient walked out of the delivery center twice and said that the pain was not good because of the unbearable pain], and also mentioned that [the parturient knelt down and begged for caesarean section].
However, no one can really hear the voice of the lying-in woman herself.
There is no denying that there are tens of millions of good kinds of natural childbirth, and if conditions permit, it is the most recommended mode of production. However, every woman’s tolerance to pain in childbirth is different, with only about 1% of women feeling that giving birth to babies is not too painful.
If the parturient is really in unbearable pain and is willing to choose cesarean section, it is most important to follow the personal wishes of the parturient.
Ten thousand steps back, there is also painless childbirth to choose from, reduce the pain of childbirth.
However, the hospital may have taken into account the indications of natural delivery of the parturient, perhaps, the caesarean section rate of the whole hospital and the bed share…
Family members may consider the recovery speed of natural labor, perhaps, also consider the economic conditions, the time of giving birth to a second child, and the hidden danger of anesthetic to the fetus…
Finally, under these [for hello] considerations, the right to give birth, even the fate of the lying-in woman, is not in her own hands from the moment she enters the waiting room of the hospital.
If the lying-in woman really chose to jump off a building to end her pain, the source of the pain must not only be the fear of childbirth pain, but also the helpless despair that she was neglected.
Can’t be their own master, more than a lying-in woman
The news fermented among various groups of mothers. Mothers could not help but sigh with emotion when they thought back to their pregnancy, childbirth and even parenting.
Since becoming a mother, where can you make your own decisions?
When pregnant, you can’t eat any delicious food you like. For the sake of safety, endure it!
No matter how painful it is when labor is going on, the mode of production cannot be decided by oneself, nor can painless labor be used. Endure it!
No matter how hot the confinement is after delivery, it will be uncomfortable. You can’t blow the air conditioner or take a bath. Endure it!
Breast-feeding mastitis fever and pain, in order to breast-feed also can’t take medicine injection, endure!
… …
A word of forbearance, of course.
Because you are the mother.
Maybe, you just need to listen to her voice
A survey shows that 50% ~ 80% of Chinese women will suffer from postpartum depression, while nearly 10% of women will feel different degrees of depression during pregnancy.
Compared with postpartum depression, prenatal depression is a psychological problem that is less familiar to Chinese.
Pregnant mothers are more likely to feel anxious due to hormone changes. If they show anxiety during pregnancy, but if they do not receive sufficient attention and timely treatment, the harm is far greater than postpartum depression. If it is serious, they will even do acts that harm themselves, such as self-mutilation and suicide, affecting the life of the fetus.
Returning to the incident, whether the lying-in woman jumped off a building due to emotional runaway as the hospital said, the high incidence of depression during pregnancy and postpartum is an indisputable fact that needs attention.
If at that time, there could be family members with us, a word of consolation and a hug, perhaps this tragedy would not have happened.
We always ignore too much, and after losing it, we think that we should pay attention to it.
This incident is indeed a tragedy, and how to avoid the tragedy is indeed a difficult problem.
Only oneself can save oneself.
Whether you want to be a mother or a mother, you must remember to stick to your rights and be your master.