As children grow up day by day, not only their curiosity becomes stronger and stronger, but also their problems become more and more tricky:
Where am I from?
Why am I born to my mother, not my father?
Why can father sleep with mother, but I can’t?
These questions, which make people laugh and cry, often make parents do not know how to answer them.
Children of different ages have different cognitive abilities, different curiosity about sex-related questions, and different depth of asking questions.
Therefore, the core method is to understand whether the child is asking what, to answer simply and directly in a language that the child can understand, not to escape, not to make up [false stories].
1. Where do I come from?
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For children before the age of 3, you can answer:
You come from your mother’s belly. There is a place called uterus in your mother’s belly. You used to live in your mother’s womb. When you grow up little by little, your mother’s belly will not hold you, and you will come out of your mother’s belly.
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Children aged 4 ~ 6 can answer:
There is a thing in father’s body called sperm and a thing in mother’s body called egg.
When father’s sperm runs into mother’s body, sperm and egg will meet and become a fertilized egg.
The fertilized egg slowly grows up little by little in the mother’s uterus and becomes a little baby.
You used to live in your mother’s womb. When you grow up little by little, your mother’s belly will not hold you, and you will come out of her belly.
2. Why was I born to my mother, not my father?
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Children before the age of 3 can answer:
Because the mother is a woman and the father is a man.
Only women can have babies, but men cannot have babies.
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Children aged 4 ~ 6 can answer:
Because giving birth to a baby requires an important body organ called the uterus. The baby has to grow up slowly in the uterus.
Only women have uterus, men do not.
Although you were not born to your father, both parents have to take care of you together and love you very much.
3. This is what? (The child asked if the sexual organ was what, how should he answer? )
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A 3-year-old child can answer this question:
Its name is pudendum, and people usually call it penis/little sister. It is the place where we pee.
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Children aged 4 ~ 6 can answer:
Its name is pudendum. This is where you pee. It is a very precious part of our body.
As precious as our eyes, hands, feet and hearts.
4. Mom, what’s going on when my penis gets bigger?
It’s normal.
Boys’ penis will get bigger, which shows that your penis is very healthy.
Thank you for sharing your new findings with your mother. If you find any changes in what in the future, you can share them with your mother.
5. Why did they touch my penis? (What should parents do when relatives and friends tease their children’s sexual organs? How should I explain it to my children? )
Their behavior is impolite and uncivilized.
As a precious part of our body, penis cannot be touched casually.
We have to protect it. The next time someone wants to touch your penis, you will tell him loudly:
Don’t touch my penis, I’m going home to tell my parents.
If Mom and Dad are nearby, we will definitely help you prevent them from touching your penis.
As parents, what we have to do is not perfunctory or evasive when children ask a question about sex.