A mother contacted me and said she suspected her son had language barriers.
The child is seven years old, Recently, I have always written wrong words. The types of mistakes are surprisingly consistent. Many words with left and right structures like [yang], Now he often writes the “day” on the left, which was originally on the right, but sometimes he can write it correctly. I realized that this situation had only started for two months, so I advised the mother not to worry, to go back and observe, and told her that this little mistake was exactly the right psychological development in my opinion.
This is not a psychological development problem at all.
Children’s memorization of Chinese characters, Especially in the early stages of study, It is not necessarily based on the analysis of Chinese characters. They are likely to process each word as a single individual. Rather than a combination of elements. [Yang] and [Dan] are two completely different individuals in their view. There is no what relationship in the constituent elements. The problem at this moment is precisely a manifestation of a deeper understanding of Chinese characters. At this time, children no longer regard Chinese characters as a whole, but gradually realize that Chinese characters are composed of different radicals. Only because they have just begun to understand, they are not skilled enough in the combination sequence.
Children’s cognitive ability is a glass, large and small, but usually enough. What parents have to do is to pour clean water into it efficiently. However, no matter you pour what water, it will not affect the volume of the cup. The above example is typical of mistaking the problem of pouring water for the problem of volume.
In children’s development, some very common situations will make parents mistakenly think that their children have problems. However, after all, we cannot worry that children will not learn to walk or think that walking is better than climbing because their children are not walking steadily at the beginning and do not climb very fast. Not every development situation in children is as convenient to evaluate as height.
Between 10 and 14 months, the baby will speak the first word at birth-usually [mother], [da da] or [ba ba]. Then the child will master a large number of words and begin to learn to use two words to express the relationship between the two things. However, the occurrence time of this [double-word sentence] varies greatly from individual to individual, and it is not uncommon for the situation to be 6 to 8 months later than the average.
In the process of language learning, Some words have considerable priority, Children cannot learn everything equally. In 1979, Benedict, a language psychologist, has studied people’s specific preferences when learning languages. For infants and children in the language learning stage, nouns receive the most preference, followed by verbs. Adjectives and unique combinations with social significance are almost incomprehensible to them.
A child at the beginning of language learning may have mastered the understanding and use of [dog] better, but he still has to be grabbed by his mother every time to say [thank you] and [goodbye] to others. After all, the latter is a social expression and is relatively less valued by children.
These may seem to be problems, but none of them are problems. Most of them have gradually improved over time without the need for parents and outside intervention. As far as language ability is concerned, as long as there are no physiological diseases and babies have a normal communication environment, it usually means that they can develop full language function.
We often say [symptoms], but having [symptoms] does not necessarily mean having [symptoms]. Some [symptoms] are just pains of development, far from requiring strong medicine and good doctors. What parents have to do is to grow up together with their children.
However, if parents try to change the volume of their children’s [cognitive ability] cups, it is often inefficient or even futile.
Many parents spend a lot of money to attend special training courses, Curriculum content often goes beyond the objective grasp of the law of development, Advocating topics such as [you can definitely develop your child’s brain potential]. In fact, at least in terms of cognitive potential, there is no research to prove the effect of these courses, and both the American Academy of Pediatrics and the American Academy of Neurology have publicly criticized training programs that use [improving baby intelligence] as gimmicks.
You still have many methods worth trying, which can ensure the orderly development of children while [promoting] rather than [improving] the development of children’s intelligence, and these methods are based on psychological experiments.
As Jean Piaget, a famous modern psychologist, said, children complete their studies by [doing] and [experiencing]. How can children who have not seen dogs really understand the meaning of [dog]? Influenced by the current fashion of children’s animation, in the eyes of my little nephew, the pot has basically nothing to do with cooking, but a weapon-this is caused by the monotonous way of exploring the world.
Language is not a simple combination of words and phrases. Learn to speak to children, not to them, that is to say, to interact, not to indoctrinate them unilaterally. Ask them questions and respond to what they say with expressions, expressions and actions.
3. Try to read to your child
About twenty months, You can start reading picture books and other books with your children. While reading, you should talk to them, or communicate with them in the eyes and expressions. Although they cannot understand the meaning of each word, they will get clues from your tone and context and respond to the intimacy created by reading books.
4. Don’t force your children and don’t expect too much from them
Most importantly: Your goal in raising children is not to create a genius and make the child the kind of person you want, but the kind of person he wants to be.
In addition to paying attention to children’s psychological development, the correct participation in the long process of growth is also parents’ great respect for children.