Who changed your baby’s diapers? Has my husband ever changed diapers for my baby?
In fact, not all fathers reject taking care of the baby.
Today’s article comes from a father who thought a lot about changing diapers for his baby in public places.
Looking at the door of the mother and infant room is regarded as a smelly hooligan.
After having children, my life has changed greatly, including recently, I was regarded as a smelly hooligan.
One weekend, my wife and I went shopping with our children. At that time, my wife happened to be in the fitting room, and I was playing with my baby in my arms. Suddenly, I felt a heat flow gushing out of my palms, accompanied by a smelly, protein smell. Looking at my daughter’s red face, I knew that she was flying.
My wife seemed to be unable to get out for a while, so I wanted to find a place to change the excrement mat for the baby first. I ran to the men’s toilet first and found that there was no place to change the diaper for the baby. Then I held the baby and asked the aunt cleaner, where can I change the diaper? Auntie said that there was a mother and infant room on the first floor. Then, she looked at me with an indescribable expression. I ignored him and rushed to the first floor.
On the wall near the toilet, there is a baby sign. I think it should be this way. But I only found a suspected compartment at the door of the women’s toilet. Xiao Bao’s ass smelled more and more strong, but it was a women’s toilet after all, and I was not ready to rush in. Just as I was looking around, an aunt cleaner looked at me suspiciously and asked me, “What are you doing?” ! This is the ladies’ room! ]
I said the child had defecated and I would change her diaper. Auntie probably smelled an unknown breath and knew I was not lying. She said, “Can’t you wait until her mother comes to change?” ]
In the end, luckily, the wife put down a pile of clothes and rushed over to change the baby’s excrement mat, which she did.
If it weren’t for this trip, I wouldn’t have realized this problem at all: a father can’t take his baby out alone, because in public places, he doesn’t even have a place to change diapers for the baby. If my wife didn’t go shopping with us today, then the baby would have to go home with a lump in his arms.
I can’t help but wonder: Why is there no [father and baby room]? Can’t fathers change diapers for their children?
Taking care of the children is not just a matter for the mother.
Originally, I didn’t think I liked children much. But since my daughter was born, my love for this little meat ball has increased day by day.
The division of labor between my wife and I is very vague in the matter of child-rearing. Apart from being unable to nurse my baby, I do everything I can, such as changing diapers, belching, bathing, washing clothes, feeding food and dressing. In my view, taking care of children is the common responsibility of parents and does not naturally belong to the woman.
When the wife is in confinement, My mother was afraid that frequent nights would affect my work during the day and told me not to participate, but I refused. During that time, my wife had to nurse her baby at night, so I was responsible for changing diapers, belching and coaxing her to sleep again. Sometimes my wife’s milk rose in the middle of the night, and I helped her milk to avoid breast blockage. At that time, I was really tired, but it was not too difficult to endure it.
I claim to be a father who is willing to take care of the baby and is indeed an “Eva fanatic” in action. However, the matter of changing diapers for my baby was rejected in public places. I think this problem must be faced squarely.
There is no gender distinction in taking care of the baby.
I have to admit that the power of collective unconsciousness is huge. For example, most people subconsciously think that taking care of children is a matter for mothers. Not only men think so, but also women themselves will not hesitate to accept this idea.
Where are the fathers’ places in the mother and infant rooms in public places and the “Top Ten Magic Weapons for Parenting that Mothers Must Know” written by the public number for parenting? When people say that fathers should participate in child-rearing, do we provide fathers with the necessary facilities and conditions to take care of their children? Do we all really think that men can also take children?
Of course, I understand the thoughts of some male compatriots. To say that women should do this and that is actually to find an excuse for themselves not to do anything. But can one earn money to support one’s family without taking care of children? Don’t women nowadays work and make money? If you want to think about it so much, you really can’t rightfully push all the child-rearing matters to your wife and mother.
In fact, there are not many fathers around me who do not reject taking care of their children, but whenever they want to do some what, the women in the family will not let them work for these puzzling reasons: [you can’t wash clothes], [you can’t sleep], [men can’t do it].
Women naturally think that taking care of children should be the full-time job of mothers. Dads who share my thoughts will feel that our right to take care of children has been deprived. You know, the more we don’t let men do it, how can we do it well? The more we are not allowed to participate in child-rearing, how can we get involved in this matter?
In our family, taking care of the baby is [gender-neutral]. Apart from breast-feeding, fathers can do what mothers can do. I hope everyone can accept this view.
Public places, need independent nursery
When it comes to the name [mother and infant room], I personally don’t like it very much. First of all, in terms of the name, I have made a [gender definition] for child-rearing. I advocate [de-sexualization] of child-rearing. The first step is to change the name of [mother and infant room] to [nursery room].
The nursery in public places should not only be located in women’s toilets. Some shopping malls do a good job and provide family-style toilets. Without such conditions, it is necessary to set up a separate nursery, neither in women’s toilets nor in men’s toilets.
I hope that such an independent nursery can be popularized in China, then there will be no more dilemma I encounter.
I hope that one day, fathers will not have to sneak around the door of the women’s toilet in order to change diapers for the dolls, nor will they be misunderstood as sex maniacs by others because they want to help their children make some what.
I also hope that one day, every public place will have an independent space to provide basic facilities for special people, so that pregnant women, children and the disabled can feel the care and love from the society.