The baby is getting older day by day, but it still cannot go to the toilet by itself. Many mothers are anxious to train the baby to go to the toilet.
However, after training over and over again, the baby still cannot express his toilet needs well and still lives on diapers.
In fact, mothers need not be impatient. They want their babies to go to the toilet well. They need not train but wait.
Is this really the case?
Come and see how this mother handled her diaper baby.
Duoge has always been a diaper party. For two and a half years, she was accompanied by diapers 24 hours a day. Even in the hottest summer, she did not bare her buttocks and did not take off her pants to defecate in public. In my eyes, the privacy of children (even babies) is as important as the hygiene and safety of their private parts.
However, now she has really got rid of diapers.
She knew that she would take the toilet when she urinated and defecated. She knew that she would take off her pants first. She knew that she would wipe them clean with paper after pulling them.
And all this, but I did not force her to instill.
She has never been excreted or accused of peeing her pants. For many pigeons, learning to go to the toilet is like learning to speak and walk. It is a very natural process.
Parents’ usual speech and behavior demonstration is the best teacher for the baby. I told Duoge what to do and showed it to her.
The next thing is to wait patiently until the day when she surprises you.
Therefore, I really don’t want to use the word “training” to describe this matter. I just recorded the whole process of many pigeons learning to go to the toilet by themselves, hoping to give some inspiration to mothers who started toilet training when they were confused in what “and who failed to achieve results after training for a long time.
First of all, choose a small toilet for your baby.
Many pigeons have shared three toilets, the first is the Liqir toilet, the second is the IKEA 9.9 simple toilet, and the third is the unknown cheap toilet I bought on Taobao.
Richter Toilet
Liqir should be quite famous in the children’s toilet industry. I like its simple and clean appearance and complete functions. Children can sit on it directly when they are young and use it with adult toilets when they grow up. This toilet has been kept in Beijing all the time. It is the toilet that many pigeons first contact and use most frequently.
IKEA Simple Toilet
After she was one year old, she often went to her grandparents’ house. I also bought her IKEA’s appalling [9.9 yuan you can’t buy and 9.9 yuan you can’t buy and fall for] toilet, which was put in my grandparents’ house. It was really small, light and easy to carry, but the integrated design was not so convenient when dumping excrement, and the cleanliness mother chose carefully.
Taobao unlicensed toilet
Well, besides grandparents’ house, there are grandparents’ house, right? Yes, so I need to buy another one and put it there! As the impression of Lichter was so good, I still decided to buy a small toilet that is similar to it, but at a lower price. I found this one on Taobao according to the four criteria of [backrest, hand-holding, split design and low price], and I won’t tell you that I only need 19.9 postage when I buy it. If it weren’t for the Lichter first, I would definitely choose it as the toilet prince with many pigeons!
Trying to train failed, so I continued to stick to diapers.
I bought Dogeon’s first toilet when she was 1 year old, but at that time she really didn’t know what the toilet was for.
In the summer when I was one and a half years old, I tried to train her. Once I took off my diapers for her and told her repeatedly that I must tell my mother if I urinated. Then I did my own thing and forgot what I said just now.
At that time, many pigeons were not very good at talking. Later I saw her hum in a hurry. I thought it was for me to hug, so when I picked her up and asked her what was wrong, she peed on me…….
At that time, I was wondering if it was too early to have toilet training at this time. At that time, she could not clearly express whether she wanted to go to the toilet or had other needs.
After two years old, the world is full of naked children, but many pigeons are still wearing diapers. I live in the voice of questioning every day. Although I can pretend not to hear it, it is false to say that I am not bored.
I am really tired of being used to talk about things every time, as if I were the one who hurt the children.
On one occasion, many pigeons’ grandparents took a train and met a two-year-old boy. According to his mother, he had never worn diapers and would have said that he would pee. On the train, watching his back who would take the initiative to express his intention to pee and go to the toilet, grandparents were so envious that they told me about it when they came back and let me train the children quickly.
I said the child was not ready yet, and now she was not going to be trained, so the old man was in a hurry.
I said we should wait until summer comes. When the time comes, when she speaks quickly, I will give her small shorts at home to let her feel the discomfort of wet pants. Naturally, she will know that she should speak in advance.
Pick a summer and wait for the baby to learn to urinate by himself.
Why summer? Because it is not cold to wet your pants in summer and it is convenient to change your pants. Last summer was too young. This summer is the last summer before entering kindergarten. I plan to try again at that time.
The summer of 2015 is coming, and many pigeons are already 2.5 years old.
In order to prepare for the next day, I took her to the store to choose small underpants, including her favorite Snoopy pattern, ice cream pattern and beautiful pink lace. Naturally, she liked it very much and couldn’t wait to wear it.
I also made full psychological preparations and began to remove diapers during the day, and repeatedly told her: when I need to urinate and defecate, I will tell my mother that I will take you to the toilet, so that your shorts will not be wet or dirty, and your ass will be very comfortable.
She said she understood, but at first, she told me “Mom, I peed” only after peeing her pants.
It’s okay, at this time I usually ask her: [Do you still have urine? Do you need to sit on the toilet again? ]
If she wants to sit down, if she says she has no urine, there is no need to force her to do so, just wash her buttocks, change into clean underpants and wipe the ground clean.
This is how I came to that day. I didn’t wear diapers at home during the day, but only small shorts, but I would often remind her, [Have you peed now? [Do you want to sit on the toilet? [Is your stomach swollen? ] [Is there stool in your ass to come out when you are full? ]
Sometimes after listening to my reminder, she will be willing to sit on the toilet and even get a little harvest, then she can help her wipe her ass with paper, and even let her try to wipe it with the paper herself, as long as she is interested.
However, when I go out and sleep, I still give her diapers, because changing pants and sheets under those circumstances will really torture me too much, so I plan to do it step by step.
Without a little precaution, the baby will express that he wants to go to the toilet.
In this way, she wet her pants every day for half a month, and suddenly one day! It was really sudden! There is no guard! She began to talk before she had the feeling of urinating and defecating! !
She would say “Mom, I want to pee” [Mom, I want to defecate], and then I would put down my work as quickly as possible and carry her to the toilet to sit down, because by this time it is very likely that [the shit has shown its sharp corners]!
Therefore, speed is very important.
At the same time, I went on to tell her that I would tell my mother earlier next time, because when you finish, I still need to help you take off your pants and sometimes look for the toilet everywhere, so please give my mother more time to prepare.
The diapers during the day were quickly got rid of. It was OK to go to the toilet before going out and always pay attention to her sign after going out. However, she was not used to the squatting pit outside, so sometimes I took her to urinate and brought my own IKEA toilet when driving.
Very smoothly, the diapers at night were not needed soon, because the progress during the day was very successful. At the same time, I found that she could not urinate all night in those days, so as long as she went to the toilet before going to bed, she woke up the next day and immediately put on the toilet seat, and all the diapers came out all night.
But just in case, I have also been laying a urine barrier under the sheets.
In a word, it only took her about a month to change from a complete diaper baby to being able to express her willingness to go to the toilet and accept the toilet completely, which really surprised me very much.
My persistence has achieved the expected results, which also gives me a special sense of accomplishment.
At this time, let’s compare AAP’s advice on “toilet training” (P330-332, 5th edition of American Academy of Pediatrics Parenting Encyclopedia Chinese):
[Studies show that children who learn to go to the toilet before they are 18 months old usually do not fully master the relevant skills until they are 4 years old. On the contrary, those who start training only around the age of 2 need only one year to go to the toilet independently. The average age for completing training is about 2.5 years old.]
Many pigeons finished smoothly at the age of 2.5. Praise!
About 2 years old and 10 months old, pigeons went to kindergarten, where she soon learned to wear and take off her pants and wipe her ass.
Even if you don’t go to kindergarten, under the condition that the above-mentioned basic work is well done, children will quickly master it by practicing and demonstrating more at home.
Many Pigeon Mothers’ Experience
1. Relax, relax, relax again
Toilet training is really not a matter of urgency. I believe the child will learn it soon when she is ready.
Mothers who become dogs before their children reach the age of two should think about it. Is it because of the pressure of public opinion that you are so anxious?
However, I think that those children who are still wearing diapers at the age of two are no worse than those who have been released by squatting down on the spot in open-backed pants with their genitals exposed since childhood. On the contrary, dolls who have been wearing diapers are better! Healthier! Safer! More beautify the environment!
2. Toilets can be prepared in advance.
Tell the baby clearly what the toilet is for, or give the toilet a name just like a toy. For example, Dove will call Liqir [toilet mother] and IKEA toilet [toilet baby]. Then occasionally try to let her sit down, take off her pants or not, and find out the feeling.
Let the children see the same-sex elders go to the toilet. I often say to many pigeons when going to the toilet, “Look, my mother has peed, so I will sit on the toilet and pee into the toilet, and you will do the same in the future.”
After meals (after drinking milk) and before going to bed are very suitable times for children to sit on the toilet.
Tell her [you just ate a lot of things, your stomach is bulging, now let’s go to the toilet baby, let mother listen to if there is urine out.] [we will turn off the lights and go to bed soon, and sit on the toilet after washing face and brushing teeth oh ~ are you ready? ]
3. Don’t distract your baby when he is sitting on the toilet.
For example, it is not advisable for a child to sit on the toilet and watch TV, play with toys or even eat, so as to avoid associating going to the toilet with these things.
Let the baby understand [what kind of feeling it feels like to urinate and defecate] is the key, and there is no need for irrelevant temptation.
4. Don’t blame you for peeing your pants.
At first, it is too normal to wet your pants. It is the only way. Don’t be depressed, don’t sigh, don’t roll your eyes, and don’t blame your child.
On the contrary, at this time, we can take the opportunity to guide:
[Oh ~ you urinated, so the feeling of your stomach just now is to urinate, you know? But you see, because you didn’t tell your mother in advance, you urinated on your shorts. The shorts were wet and uncomfortable. Besides, the floor is wet. Mom needs to wipe the floor with a rag now. Otherwise, you may slip and fall. I will help you change your shorts when I finish wiping the floor.]
If there is nothing in the toilet, I will say:
[Oh ~ you haven’t peed yet, it doesn’t matter, let’s wait a little longer! Tell mom about the pee later.]
If there was anything in the toilet. I would say:
[Wow, so this is what you ate in your stomach ~ do you remember? The book says that nutritious ingredients in food are absorbed by your body, helping you grow taller and fatter, and those without nutrition become poop. Hee hee, that’s it! Well ~ it smells a little ~ so let’s go and pour it down! ]
5. If the child is interested in pouring the bedpan, he can take the bedpan to the adult toilet to pour it.
Many pigeons are extremely interested in this link. Every time she carefully walks to the toilet with a bedpan in her hand, passes it to me for cleaning after pouring it, and then she walks out of the toilet with a very satisfied face.
There is no need to deliberately [train], which does not mean that what does not do it, because the accumulation bit by bit at ordinary times will affect her. For example, I often let many pigeons watch me go to the toilet.
For example, when I see a child who has been urinated downstairs in the community, I will tell her [in fact, this is wrong, the little buttocks cannot be exposed for others to see, and urination should be in the toilet].
For example, I often talk to her about picture books related to learning to go to the toilet < < Lovely Body: Pull Poo, It’s Really Comfortable > >, < < Children, Vomit > >, < < Baby Bear Picture Books: Pull > >, < < Scrackling Series: I Want to Pull > >, < < Pull Together > >.
I hope every mother who expects her baby to go to the toilet on her own can wait for a surprise result.