There is a hot survey on the Internet, with 96% of boys masturbating and 70% of girls masturbating.
The conclusion of this survey does not seem surprising. Many people are accustomed to masturbation by men, while masturbation by women is often stigmatized, which makes women who masturbate feel ashamed and distressed, and even fear because of various rumors.
In fact, it is not uncommon for women to have masturbated, but when talking about this topic, they are by no means as easy as men describe [flying] and [rolling]. Today in 2019, female masturbation is still entangled with shame and misunderstanding.
We are writing this article today, hoping to help female friends understand that you are not doing bad things, but doing what all women can do.
The common rumors in life
1. Masturbation is easy to become homosexual.
Some people think that masturbation and homosexuality are both touching and caressing sexual organs or other sensitive parts of the body with hands, so masturbation will develop into homosexuality if it occurs more frequently, and masturbation and homosexuality are only one step away.
This idea is unscientific. Homosexuality has its own special causes: genetic factors, environmental impacts of childhood contact, etc.
No matter how many times you masturbate, you will not lose your direction of love and become a lesbian because of the severe love blow and other special events such as men’s loss of confidence, then please rest assured that no matter how many times you masturbate, what will not lose your direction of love and become a lesbian.
2. Masturbation will hurt hymen
Normal women have a hole in the center of the hymen, and the hymen is also elastic. Women who have no sex life can smoothly enter the vagina with a single finger (for example, women who have no sex life can also use tampons).
There are many ways for women to masturbate. Safe masturbation will not harm the hymen.
For example, stimulating labia or clitoris with hands, squeezing and rubbing pudendum with legs will bring sexual reactions. Through such external friction and squeezing, the hymen may be pulled to a certain extent, causing edema or congestion, but it will not damage the hymen.
However, if an appliance is to be used for insertion, Usually be careful, Avoid violence, At the same time, it is necessary to select suitable instruments, With lubricating products, To reduce discomfort and injury. If you have to use very thick tools to force the insertion, It is possible to damage the hymen, this truth needless to say, everyone knows, so this plug-in way is mostly used by women who have sex life, and women who have no sex life are mainly based on external friction. As some people abroad joked: the masturbation girl is still the girl.
3. Masturbation is easy to be frigid.
There is no scientific basis for this claim. Sexologists now agree that masturbation is a process by which women know and become familiar with their bodies, which will enable them to better understand where their bodies are most sensitive, need how’s stimulation, and then have what reactions.
Sexologists were also surprised to find that women who masturbated before marriage were less likely to have orgasm disorders after marriage, while women who did not masturbate before marriage suffered from frigidity three times more than women who masturbated before marriage.
Because in sexual practice and attempts, women are actually more [passive] or even [forced]. If women do not actively look for and worry about damaging their image, they will have less experience of sexual happiness, and it will be difficult to have pleasant psychological reactions to sex, even unhealthy psychological understanding, which will have an impact on the real sexual life in the future.
4. Masturbation will affect vulva color,
There is a widespread rumor on the Internet [more masturbation by women will deepen the color of the labia and turn it into black fungus]. Many people believe this statement. They think that rubbing the vulva during masturbation will make the color of the vulva darker, and some adolescent girls are even more scared.
In fact, there is no scientific basis for this statement. Adolescent girls in the process of development, breast development growth, subcutaneous fat increase and make the pubic mound bulge, buttocks become larger, and pubic hair growth and labia development thicker, melanin deposition in the perineum, making private parts color deepened.
The appearance of these female accessory sexual characteristics is mainly the result of the action of sex hormones in the body. Specific to individuals, genetic factors also play an important role. The acquired behavior includes female masturbation behavior, which has little influence on the appearance of these accessory sexual characteristics and specific development. Therefore, masturbation will not affect the color of private parts.
What are the hazards of excessive masturbation?
There is a degree in everything, enough is enough, so is masturbation, but how is moderate? This standard is difficult to define. Some people have never tried it before, and others have nothing to do once a day. [Moderation] is like shoes. Only one knows whether they fit or not. Masturbation is a way to relax and please oneself. However, if there are the following situations, then it is not moderate but excessive:
1. Frequent masturbation affects work and life, resulting in listlessness, insomnia, hypomnesis, etc.
2. Pain, redness and swelling of vulva, abnormal vaginal secretions, frequent urination, urgency of urination, pain in urination, and even dull pain in lower abdomen occur.
3. Seeing the scene of sexual stimulation, there will be irrepressible impulse and you must masturbate and extricate yourself.
The above situation indicates that masturbation is excessive and you need to go to the hospital to see if there is a problem. After all, [moderate pleasure, excessive injury].
Benefits of moderate masturbation
Masturbation is an important means to increase one’s understanding of oneself. Masturbation is to touch one’s sensitive areas. In touching oneself, one can increase one’s understanding of oneself.
In particular, women’s sensitivity is characterized by concealment and dispersion. If a woman does not know her body, where would she want her husband to touch? Therefore, important sexual knowledge has a great influence on sexual happiness. For example, the understanding and cognition of clitoris are closely related to female orgasm.
In the past, our sex education was only the teaching of simple physiological knowledge, but did not tell us that we can touch ourselves. This is actually one-sided. Sex is mysterious to the unknown, and mystery itself will be attractive. It is easier to wrestle if you explore secretly.
Touch yourself when masturbating, so that women can experience it as the initiative, it is easier to have pleasure in sex and improve the quality of sex life.
In addition, other studies have found that masturbation activates the central region of the brain, which is beneficial to the brain. At the same time, masturbation can accelerate the blood circulation of the whole body. Masturbation can release stress, improve mood and help sleep. When the part of your brain that controls joy is stimulated, you will no longer think about annoying things.
Precautions when masturbating
Masturbation is the most effective means for women to obtain sexual release and relieve their sexual needs. However, if women really want masturbation to become a “happy condiment” for life, they should pay more attention. Cases of injuries or diseases caused by masturbation are not uncommon.
First of all, the environment atmosphere of masturbation is very important. Choosing a quiet and private place that is not easy to be disturbed or bumped into can improve the feeling of pleasure on the one hand. On the other hand, it can also avoid those women who are nervous and conservative and still have ethical concerns about masturbation leaving psychological shadow.
Secondly, the physiological structure of women is special than that of men. Masturbation must be carried out in a hygienic and safe way. No matter how you masturbate, cleaning your hands and pudendum is very important.
Wash your hands in advance and don’t forget to take off the rings and other ornaments in advance. Don’t leave your nails too long either. It is better to cut them short and trim them flat. Don’t have nail ornaments to avoid bacterial infection caused by scratching your vagina.
Habit through clothing friction masturbation of women, underwear hygiene is also very important, it is best to change into clean underwear after bathing. Women who like to insert some kind of utensils into vagina masturbation must ensure the cleanness of the utensils. It is suggested to put on condoms in advance, which can not only play a role in sanitary barrier, but also have lubrication effect to prevent damage.
In addition, it is necessary to avoid choosing foreign bodies with sharp corners, fragile and easy to break, or easy to fall into the vagina.
The way women masturbate
There are many ways for women to masturbate, such as touching the breast, stimulating the labia or clitoris with hands, squeezing and rubbing the pudendum with legs, inserting hands or instruments into the vagina, etc. These ways have the same principle, and produce sexual reactions by stimulating the sensitive zones of women, and finally reach orgasm.
When choosing masturbation methods, there are no special requirements. You can choose according to your personal preferences. It is good not to use instruments that are difficult or easy to cause injuries.
Female masturbation also has a beautiful name-[sex solo dance], literally, [self] is self, is an individual, [comfort] is relief, is happiness. Masturbation is an individual’s pursuit of happiness and his own rights. Although this matter is very private, it is absolutely normal and a positive attitude towards sex.
Our forefathers said that “eating sex and sex” is just like eating and sleeping. It is a normal physiological need of people. Of course, the purpose of writing this article is not to encourage women to try masturbation, but to tell everyone that being a woman has the same rights as men in sexual choice, and don’t feel ashamed and uneasy about it.
May every woman be able to hold happiness!