Hello everyone, I am Duan Tao, an obstetrician and gynecologist.
In the past, our colleagues often joked that there were three kinds of people in the world: men, women and male obstetricians and gynecologists. As a male obstetrician and gynecologist who neglected gender, I was honored to be a “friend of women”.
In my [Friends of Women] clinic, in addition to dealing with difficult and complicated problems related to pregnancy, I have to answer such questions as:
- What if menstruation does not come? Menstruation is old, how to do? How can I get pregnant? And how can we not be pregnant?
Wait, the question that requires me to fight left and right.
There are many similar questions and many answers. I’ll tell you later. Today, let’s talk about [how can we not get pregnant].
When it comes to pregnancy, there is no way around [Sex].
First of all, we know that most animals have estrous cycles, and Sex’s sole purpose is to reproduce.
For human beings, sex for the purpose of pregnancy is just a few times in a lifetime. 99% of human sex has nothing to do with reproduction. Sex is for happiness and enjoyment. Sex should try its best not to be pregnant in the process.
How can we enjoy ourselves while not getting pregnant? Human beings have come up with many ways, such as calculating the safety period and ejaculation time. However, human beings are not as good as heaven. Heaven cannot calculate sperm and eggs. Of course, it cannot calculate Murphy’s Law.
Murphy’s Law: If something might go wrong, it goes wrong.
That is to say, if one thing is likely to go wrong, then maybe it is. According to Murphy’s Law, you think XXOO is impossible to get pregnant under certain circumstances, but it often [has a big pregnancy]. The more you think it is impossible to get pregnant, the higher the probability of getting pregnant.
Therefore, little girls often ask me in a questioning tone after finding out that they are pregnant:
Mingming I am in menstrual period/safe period, Mingming ejaculates in vitro, Mingming… why are you still pregnant?
What I want to say is that clearly there are some great inventions in the history of human medicine, such as contraceptives, condoms and BlingBling’s IUD.
Why don’t you?
Why do you believe in what’s first seven and last eight safety periods and the mouth that what men said [I won’t put it in, I’ll shoot it out]?
Wrong contraceptive methods
No insertion?
Yes, in principle, you will not be pregnant without insertion, but if you are very close when excreting sperm in vitro and a few sperm sneak into the vagina, it will be miserable, and then dry wood will meet the fire.
Extracorporeal sperm excretion?
Many people have tried and many have tried. First, it may not be possible to control it every time. Second, in a few cases, the secretion before ejaculation will contain a small amount of sperm.
Safety period?
The safety period of [the first seven and the last eight] is not safe. I once wrote a popular science article to explain that the safety period is not [safe]. In the message backstage of this article, many children named an’an, Quan Quan, condom, Meng Meng and the one before their official holidays have been born ~
There are dozens of safe contraceptive methods, so don’t try the above unreliable contraceptive methods again.
Of all the contraceptive methods, which is the best? In fact, there is no best, only the most suitable.
The choice of contraceptive method depends on the woman’s age, physical condition, partner’s status, the number of times she has sex each month and whether she will have children in the short term.
Let me first briefly introduce the three most classic methods of condom, contraceptive pill and intrauterine device.
Three Scientific Contraceptive Methods
Condom
This method is suitable for partners in love. It can not only prevent contraception, but also prevent sexually transmitted diseases.
Because you don’t know whether the other person has had many sexual partners in the past or whether the other person’s sexual partner has had sexually transmitted diseases. For men, being willing to use condoms is also a responsible expression.
And condoms are suitable for people whose Sex is not too active. If it is only 1 ~ 2 times a month, you can save it. It is not necessary for your female companion to take the contraceptive pill for a month or put the ring in place.
Contraceptive pill
Different from Western countries, Chinese people still have a lot of worries about taking contraceptives. In fact, this is not so terrible.
Contraceptive pills are suitable for people who do not want to wear condoms, people who are allergic to condoms, and people who have additional requirements other than contraception (e.g. To treat acne, to adjust menstrual disorders, etc.).
Tip: Post-event (emergency) contraceptives are not serious contraceptives, they are very cheating, because you will [win] if you are not careful, so in order to avoid comedy, stay away from post-event (emergency) contraceptives.
Intrauterine device
It is suitable for people whose husbands do not want to wear condoms, do not want to take medicine, and want reliable results.
In addition, there are even more [unique], that is, [sterilization], that is, ligation, not birth control.
It can be tied by women (tubal ligation) or men (vas deferens ligation). After ligation, you two can often [meet], but sperm and egg cannot [meet].
The choice of ligation needs to be careful. Don’t be like the children in love, who tattooed each other’s name on their bodies as soon as their brains became hot. They broke up in a few months and had to wash off the tattoos.
Ligation is a choice that you really don’t want children and really want to die with each other.
Also, one ligation is enough, not both of them.