Two days ago, a mother left a message asking: Teacher Ye! My child is only three years old and has learned to lie! Lying at such a young age, what can I do when I grow up?
Indeed, in the eyes of many parents, it is not a good thing for what for clever children to suddenly start gossiping.
But instead, I would like to congratulate the mother: the three-year-old child can lie, which shows that the child’s intelligence has exceeded that of at least 50% of the children of the same age.
According to research by Kang Lee, a professor of applied psychology at the University of Toronto, about 30% of children will lie for the first time when they are 2 years old, while 80% of children will lie when they are 4 years old.
The study also found that children with higher intelligence level, stronger self-control and independence lied earlier.
At such times, adults need not be too nervous. Children’s intellectual development precedes moral development. As long as they are guided more, they will not go astray.
Only such lies need to be corrected
Not all lies need to be corrected, only utilitarian lies should be paid attention to and handled correctly.
The following three characteristics, as long as one of them is satisfied, are even utilitarian lies:
1. Children’s lying will hurt other innocent people.
2. By lying, children get resources they shouldn’t get.
3. By lying, the child escaped the punishment he should have faced.
Even so, parents should not label their children as “bad children” and encourage them to tell the truth.
When a child tells you the truth, especially when he speaks some negative emotions from his heart, such as being bullied, being wronged, etc., parents should fully recognize and understand it so that he can feel that if he tells the truth, he will get more encouragement, recognition and help from his parents, and his tendency to lie will be greatly reduced.
0 ~ 3 years old
It is the best time to cultivate your baby’s good habits.
0 ~ 3 years old is the best time to cultivate children’s good habits, but if the discipline method is wrong, it will affect children’s emotional intelligence development, social relations and even character formation.
Take the case of children lying. Many parents will inevitably get angry when they know that their children lie. If they get angry, they will scold their children a few words, but after scolding, they regret it again.
This kind of discipline will have many bad effects on children.
Many books such as < < Developmental Psychology > > and < < Parents > > have pointed out that beating and scolding children all the time will affect their emotional intelligence and intelligence level, while the kind of [three noes] scolding-no explanation, no guidance and no help-will only make children more afraid to admit their mistakes and lie more and more frequently.
Children grow up day by day, more and more have their own ideas, habits have become a big problem. Faced with the baby crying, sabotage and other bad habits, parents inevitably have to ask themselves: Why do children do this? How can I help him form good habits?
This requires parents to have a set of systematic solutions. The “Baby’s Good Habits Formation Class” elaborately made by my mother and clove helps you solve various problems encountered in the process of cultivating baby’s good habits and gives you a systematic solution that saves time, labor and worry.
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