In addition to eating, drinking, pulling, scattering and sleeping, the baby [disobedience] is also a headache for parents:
The baby actually began to lie, how to do?
The baby is simply the king of destruction. The house is painted at sixes and sevens. Is there any help?
Every time I see such a problem, Dr. Clove will first congratulate the parents of the [problem baby]. Because these [disobedient] manifestations often indicate that the baby has entered a new stage of development and are [smart] manifestations.
Become disobedient
STEP 1 Don’t take a nap
The baby who used to take a nap obediently has become reluctant to take a nap?
Don’t worry, if the baby doesn’t take a nap, doesn’t feel sleepy in the afternoon, is in good spirits and mood, and eats well, then parents should be happy:
As the baby grows up and the brain matures, it doesn’t need so much sleep time to stay awake during the day.
If the baby is brewing in bed or cannot sleep, then don’t force the baby to take a nap, but arrange quieter activities, such as jigsaw puzzles, reading books, playing with building blocks, etc.
Step 2: Start lying
Studies have shown that children with higher brain development are more likely to lie. Moreover, children who lie may have higher emotional intelligence:
Lying is highly positively correlated with strong logic, language and executive ability. Even if age is not taken into account, children with strong cognitive ability are easy to lie.
However, children have already begun to consciously ponder other people’s thoughts and can understand other people’s emotions before they begin to lie.
If the child lies, parents should not label the child as a “bad child” first, but should encourage the child to tell the truth, educate the child about the disadvantages of lying afterwards, and slowly guide the child to correct values.
Become [be] impolite
STEP 1 Not humble
Babies around the age of 2 have become reluctant to share with other babies. In the eyes of many parents, these [unhumble] seem very [impolite].
In fact, this is the baby’s natural psychological development process and the expression of self-awareness. The baby’s self-awareness will make them have a stronger purpose and protect themselves when doing things in the future.
Bao’s parents do not need to force their children to share, but can practice [exchange toys] with their children at home to guide them to master the methods of communication and negotiation with other babies.
In this way, the baby’s communication ability can be cultivated, and the baby can also establish good relations with other babies.
2. Don’t like to say hello
Originally [Renlaifeng] baby, when he was about 3 years old, suddenly became reluctant to say hello.
Parents don’t have to worry too much, this is the baby’s beginning to have [sense of shame], and it is also a manifestation of the development of self-awareness.
At this time, parents should not force their children to say hello to others, but can guide them through games, for example, playing [say hello to win little red flowers] games with their babies to slowly cultivate their interest in communicating with others.
Generally speaking, by the age of 6 or so, children will slowly return to their former cheerful personality and be willing to communicate with others.
Step 3: Talk back
When many babies reach the age of 3, they begin to consciously [oppose] their parents and often like to talk back.
This is also a manifestation of the formation of the baby’s self-concept. The baby slowly realizes that he is different from his parents: I have my wishes, my thoughts, and I am an independent individual!
If Bao’s parents encounter such a situation, they should first control their emotions, listen actively, see why the baby wants to [oppose] and help the baby solve the problems behind [opposing].
If the baby has no reason to deliberately [oppose], the parents should explain clearly to the baby the consequences of not following the parents’ suggestions and guide the child to abide by the family rules.
The [King of Destroyer] in the Family
STEP 1 Bite
Babies are born to bite, from fingers to toes, and they will not let go of everything they can reach.
Babies bite, on the one hand, can help them obtain sensory stimulation and promote brain development. On the other hand, it is also a way for babies to relieve anxiety.
Therefore, parents do not need to worry too much about the baby’s biting behavior, and provide the baby with a clean and safe environment so that they can bite safely for a period of time.
Generally speaking, when the baby grows up, he will slowly give up such behavior. If there is no adverse impact on life, no other intervention is needed.
Step 2: Graffiti
At the age of 3 or so, many children will use the walls and floors of their homes as drawing boards and randomly create [works] in blank places that only they can see.
These creative behaviors, which annoy parents, can effectively stimulate the potential of children’s right brain and improve children’s creative thinking ability and aesthetic perception.
Therefore, Dr. Clove advised parents not to stop their children from doing this. We can open up a creative area at home, for example, stick replaceable wallpaper on one wall to help children give full play to their creative potential.