Death, like birth, growth, maturity, childbirth and aging, is a reality and a necessity. I am afraid of going from bad to worse. I am afraid of relying on others, dragging down relatives and the humiliation brought by pain and despair, far more than I am afraid of death.
Cherish the days together
One day at dinner, I opened a bottle of red wine and poured Grandma a cup bottom. Grandma tasted it and said:
Well, yes, like Shi wine from my hometown, pour me some more.
I filled her another cup and let her enjoy it slowly.
Grandma tasted the wine very carefully, and her expression was very satisfied and serene, which made people feel steadfast and warm.
As I grow up, I cherish the time with the elderly in my family more and more.
I always bring Grandma some snacks in small packages in different ways. Every time I buy these things, I am gently afraid in my heart. I am afraid that one day when the old man goes, I will not be able to buy them.
Grandma is old, she doesn’t use smart phones, she can’t trust online banking, and she can’t even clean out treasure. She only uses the experience and words in her memory to describe the food that she is not familiar with at the moment and the new things that are constantly appearing around her. It is said that the old people are out of touch with society. Sometimes I think, will this be just a way to say goodbye to the world gradually?
They no longer accept new things, perhaps just to stop more contact with the world, so as not to be hard to give up when they leave. They begin to forget, perhaps by putting down a little of the past every day and drifting away with only the warmth in the depth of memory.
Old people are taboo to talk about life and death. When I talk about hospice care, living wills and other topics at home, Grandma is eager to come and cover my mouth.
I also joked and jumped off the topic.
However, when looking at her old man’s face quietly tasting red wine, she would secretly think in her heart that if one day this old lady I love is going to leave, she must walk with dignity, ease and dignity.
Soothing medicine
I often jump out of my status as a doctor and think from the perspective of an ordinary person. If there is no hope of recovery, I will hope to get the help of doctors and family how? How would I want to free myself?
Some diseases reach the advanced stage, and it is really difficult to make breakthrough progress in treatment, such as advanced cancer.
It is not the time to fight the disease to the end and end up together. Focusing on improving the quality of life of patients before they die, making their hearts comfortable and helping patients and their families through this difficult special period together are things that doctors should consider more. At such times, doctors should do more to give patients hospice care and soothing medical treatment.
Cancer analgesia is one of the main contents of hospice care and soothing medicine.
The principle of analgesic in modern medicine has been put forward for many years, but how many patients with advanced cancer have really enjoyed professional and satisfactory treatment, and how many doctors have really understood the true meaning of analgesic in cancer and used analgesic programs and therapeutic drugs with ease?
What will the doctor do?
In the face of patients with advanced diseases, although they cannot be brought back to life, doctors will not stand idly by-do not accelerate or delay death, prevent and relieve the pain of patients, control pain, give maximum physical and mental comfort and support, and make the patients walk more comfortably and peacefully on the final journey.
No longer afraid of wolves and tigers before, no longer afraid of using morphine, also no longer afraid of miser cautious dosage. At the same time of relieving pain, it can avoid side effects such as intractable constipation and respiratory depression, thus showing the true skill of soothing and treating doctors.
Compared with clinical frontline doctors, doctors in the soothing medical team are more willing to spend time talking with patients and their families.
If the patient has religious beliefs, the relief medical team will invite volunteers to comfort or pray at the patient’s bedside. The only purpose of relief medical treatment is to do everything possible to make the patient leave with dignity and comfort.
The comfort, help and care in soothing medical treatment all come from the goodwill and care of people. They are no longer just cold scalpels, destructive chemotherapy drugs, cold and involuntary ventilators, and various tubes responsible for injecting drugs and draining filth all over the body.
Everything will slow down, Doctors are willing to sit down and give the warmest greetings, the most patient listening and the most meticulous care to the patients by the bedside and pillow. Let the patients receiving soothing treatment live in comfort, dignity and less pain in the final stage of their lives. Although death will eventually come and life is like an inevitable defeat, they have time to apologize, thank you, love and say goodbye.
Since death will eventually come, let’s push everything forward at a gentle pace and let the curtain of life fall slowly in preparation.