What kind of experience is it to have a clingy baby at home?
Almost every baby will become particularly clingy at a certain time.
When you go out, you have to take a shit. As long as you leave his sight for one second, [Killing Serial Call] will come immediately. Even Pavarotti will give in to the 60 super-high notes a minute.
If you don’t respond to him in time, the appearance will be even more like that of Qi Fei, with snot and tears, throwing and rolling in parallel. Think about it all [children are afraid]!
Wherever you go, you will howl. Its stickiness is comparable to 502 glue.
Mom wants her own space? No, no, no, it doesn’t exist. Starting from opening your eyes in the morning, the baby will automatically switch to [candy mode].
When his mother went to the toilet, he was like this…
When mother cooks, he is like this…
When mother takes a bath, he is like this…
Very not easy to endure until the baby fell asleep, want to be alone quietly and quietly, tiptoe half foot hasn’t stepped out of the door, the baby like bring its own [radar detector], [um ~] with a sound began to play coquetry, long night, sleep with the mother can only secretly feel sad…
Sticky babies are a [sweet burden]
[There are so many adults in the family, why is there only one mother?]
Although this unique favor will make the mother extremely gratified, seeing the angel-like baby can turn into a small crying bag in an instant, and no matter how sweet it is, there will be moments when she can’t help wanting to go wild.
Where does the baby learn from his clinging skills? When I was a child, I was so good, but the bigger it was, the harder it was to take it.
In fact, we are really wrong about the baby!
Since he was born, his mother who has been with him is his most trusted harbor. Hungry, crying and scared, his mother can comfort him in the first place. Therefore, after learning to climb, the baby can’t wait to stick to his mother to get more security.
In the face of strange environment and strangers, instinctive fear will also make the baby more dependent on his mother. Even if his mother is just around the corner, he still wants O-distance contact and wants to hang on his mother like a koala.
Take three steps to separate, and easily say separate from the baby.
There are babies who are more clingy than 502 at home. Not only do they have to go to work and go to kindergarten for half an hour, but they also have to collect clothes and go to the toilet. If you want to be separated from your baby easily, your mother should practice a little caution.
Before Separation: Attack People First Attack Heart
1. Psychological Tactics 1-Communicate in Advance
Before each separation, tell the baby at least one day in advance that the mother has something to go out.
[Baby, Mom is going to work tomorrow afternoon. Will you play well with Grandma? Tomorrow noon mother will leave after lunch, the baby will take a nap obediently, and the mother will come back at dinner.]
Remind your baby from time to time and reiterate your plan to go out.
Draw the key!
When communicating, the details must be made clear, and the time of leaving and returning should be replaced by things and actions that he can understand, such as lunch and taking a nap, so that the baby can have a general grasp of the mother’s schedule.
2. Psychological Tactics 2-Preview in Advance
Catch the baby’s time when he is full of food and drink and in a good mood, and try to play the separation game of [finding his mother] with him.
Primary Edition: Close and Timely Response
[The baby plays with toys by himself. The mother wants to sit on the sofa next to her and have a rest. You can see it when you turn around.]
When he looks for his mother, wave his hand to let him know that you are always there.
Advanced Edition: Go Away and Advance Your Inch
[The baby is playing with toys. Mother goes to the kitchen to wash apples for the baby and will come out soon.]
Slowly extend the departure time, but as long as the baby looks for it, he must respond in time.
Advanced Edition: Short Time Out to Rehearse
[Baby is playing with toys. Mom will buy a bottle of soy sauce to make delicious food for you and will be back soon.]
When you come back, don’t forget to hug her and kiss her immediately, and then say:
[Mom’s back, Mom hasn’t disappeared.]
When separating: Choose your teammates and understand your baby’s uneasiness.
1. Choose a reliable [body double teammate]
Before leaving, choosing a person that the baby is familiar with and willing to be close to, such as father and grandmother, will relieve his unhappiness to a great extent.
The main task of body double’s teammates is [to play with]. Accompany the baby to play favorite games, read favorite picture books, do outdoor activities, etc. In short, the baby can come as happy as he is.
2. Allow your baby to vent his emotions
Long-term separation itself is a bad experience for the baby. It is not only normal to lose your temper or cry. Mother may as well send a voice and video to the baby, chat with him, ask about eating what and playing what today, and share interesting things about her going out. Patiently and comfortably, at the same time, tell the baby that she will be back in what.
Body double teammates can also hug him and say to him:
[The baby misses his mother, doesn’t he? The mother also misses the baby very much. When the baby wakes up tomorrow, she will be able to see her mother! ]
The aim is to let the baby know that although the mother is not around, she is always thinking about him.
After returning: do a good job of appeasement
1. Comfort your baby with body language
When he came back, he hugged and kissed him for the first time, gently stroked his back and told him:
[Mom’s back! Mommy misses our baby! ]
This can not only deepen the parent-child relationship, but also quickly comfort the baby’s injured little heart.
Step 2 Have a little surprise
Who wouldn’t like a little surprise? Give your baby a little surprise occasionally, and he will be happier.
However, it cannot be given every time, otherwise the baby will form a set of thinking and habits, thinking that separation = gifts.
Small gifts also try to choose some low-priced things, such as handmade flowers made by mother, postcards written to baby, or fun photos, refrigerator stickers, snacks, etc.
[Sticky] is a necessary stage for every baby to grow up. Generally, it will slowly converge after reaching the age of 3. Mom should not feel bored. Maybe you will secretly miss it then!