The child, like an intruder at first, disrupted our original rhythm of life.
Later, the child was like a pressurizer again. Let’s learn parenting knowledge and do more efficient information screening at the age of motherhood.
Later, the child became a guide, allowing us, who became mothers, to find a direction to stick to.
Do you also want to say thank you to your baby?
Although babies are not the whole of our life, they do bring tremendous changes to our small days.
The article I want to share today is a thank-you letter from my mother to my daughter.
The mother said:
Life is like a doughnut, with circles and gaps.
Fortunately, everything is sweet.
This is a thank-you letter to my daughter.
The first 1/3 of my life was quite normal, not rich and expensive, not poor, mixed food and drink and NEET. I was too mediocre and unconvinced, but my heart was higher than the sky and my life was thinner than my face. I also didn’t catch several bull markets and made a lot of money in the housing market. If life is an examination, I didn’t draw the point on this examination question.
Fortunately, my personal consumption desire is not particularly strong, so I did not suffer too much from the huge gap between me and others on the material level. Basically, I was jealous for a while and then passed.
I want to give my children better, but my heart is deeply powerless.
I was originally a person who did not have a strong desire to consume, but after I had a baby, I found that everything had changed……..
After having a baby, I didn’t have no desire for consumption, but I didn’t have much desire for the consumption that I pasted on myself.
How many bags and lipstick posts have not planted what grass for me, but all the good things used by the baby are planted one by one. Gradually, a prairie has grown in my heart.
What’s more, I still like to visit e-commerce websites all over the world. What I hate most is that I have a good ability to search in the sea. It’s really cruelty plus not to buy it.
There is not enough money, it feels really too scratching my ears and scratching my heart.
Every time my daughter sees me bringing toys to people, she doesn’t. Seeing the pitiful appearance of her pursed mouth, she really feels distressed that she has only [princess disease] and no princess life.
My reason told me [children cannot have too many toys], but the real voice in my heart was:
[Why didn’t I have the ability to all in everything you want before I gave birth to you?]
I admit that sometimes I use reason to hide my lack of wealth.
Similar things happen intermittently in the first two years of birth:
Where did you buy the school district house? The best school district can’t afford it.
What are the interest classes? Too many kinds can’t afford to quote.
How many times a year do you travel? The price of the air ticket and hotel really can’t be achieved. Let’s go as soon as we say.
So I began to feel powerless. Why was I not ambitious or bold enough when I was young?
At that time, I saw that my best friend in my circle of friends was all light and had traveled abroad. My heart became strawberries……..
There is no surplus in money, so we have to learn more.
It’s not enough to stick your heart alone, but you have to use your brain at last.
So I spent all my time with my baby studying such things as how to rob resources by means other than money.
In fact, it is to find commodities with higher cost performance and identify more accurate information.
The best housing in the school district cannot be bought. In fact, there are still many policy details that can be more easily enjoyed by the second choice.
Interest classes can’t all be reported. I can first read a book to study what’s age enlightenment, how to enlighten and other parenting knowledge to find the baby’s interest and draw out the echelon.
Although tourism cannot be done as soon as it is said, a year of slowly plucking hair is enough for a high-quality trip.
I gradually realized that We are in the line of ordinary people, Only money and time can be used to rob resources-either time to study methods, In order to achieve the effect of small money and small efforts to do great things, or pay money to save time. More than three years have passed, subtle things have happened. Over time, I have become a positive and progressive person. Apart from the knowledge of mother and child care, the thirst for other knowledge has never been high. Habits and habits, learning for a long time is inertia.
For consumption, I also thought about it for a moment. I am interested in daily necessities, child-rearing supplies, household and stationery. Everyone has his own desire points. The desire points that are provoked and the desire points that he finds are different from the satisfaction that he gets.
Gradually, other people’s life is not very likely to pierce my heart. Ah, no, I am still not as beautiful as others’ life, but I don’t feel any pain. Objectively speaking, after all, I know only one person like my best friend who steps on the spot accurately in the big waves of society.
The vast majority of friends are similar to me, advancing in mistakes and living in groping.
Gradually, I realized the positive cycle in my heart brought about by facing up to desire and improving my ability.
Although I always love to be black in the circle of friends, I really thank my eldest daughter. It is her arrival that makes me love learning more, think in a good direction, become self-black and do not complain.
Raising my daughter taught me how to screen information effectively.
Of course, my daughter actually didn’t do it in what. She only cared about being cute and frustrating to me, but I still got more life experience from her and could be called my life mentor.
As a teenager, I used to shout for independent thinking all day long. In fact, the concept is vague. Just pretend to be a deliberate maverick and devoted to opposing voices. Can that be called independent thinking? What independent thinking is that?
To say one thing, I can’t choose the ability of credible knowledge.
For example, how to make hair more and how not dysmenorrhea, I know how to search, various channels to search a lot of information. It seems that in the end I actually decided to believe the posts on the end of the world and buy shampoo and brown sugar at sixes and sevens… I think that is someone else’s experience, it will definitely work.
After having a daughter, I began to seriously identify information sources, because I realized that it was more important to be responsible for another person than to be responsible for myself.
Not to say that I am great, this is the same reason that enterprising people lower other things when doing key projects.
Although I haven’t fought for a career yet, being a mother does produce a sense of career that gives up me.
At present, all kinds of knowledge related to babies have reached the point where they will definitely step on the pit without identification.
Knowing how to find information sources, how to find one’s own needs in the noisy information flow, and scientific parenting knowledge is a basic accomplishment of being a mother.
As a result, my character has undergone another subtle change: I will no longer follow others’ advice or oppose it for the sake of opposition.
I will identify the information myself, analyze it myself, and go to the next logical and self-consistent conclusion. You know, my paper was called back and reworked by my tutor because the conclusion was not good.
Although I always love to be in the circle of friends, I really thank my eldest daughter. It is her arrival that makes me realize the significance and benefits of independent thinking. In recent years, the number of things that suffer from mistakes in decision-making has decreased.
My daughter makes me warmer.
I remember when I was in primary school, I went to the cinema with my friends to watch < < my mother loves me again > >. After the break, everyone cried and swollen and walked out. I looked at my friends in a daze:
Do you really need to cry like this?
I have always been a person who is not easily moved. I always look at everything rationally and live according to the pattern of [there must be something missing in this matter that caused this tragedy].
To put it simply, there is no strong empathy and it is difficult to be empathized with. To put it harshly, it is indifference.
After my daughter was born, to be exact, she and her father kept this [little pet] for a few months, and my world suddenly changed.
Seeing a beautiful scenery photo, I was so beautiful, and then I cried! Of course, I am still the one who loves to pick holes. I just found the lost empathy.
Although I always love Heiwa in the circle of friends, I really thank my eldest daughter. It was her arrival that made me soft and have the ability to change positions. Gradually, I became a science brain liberal arts heart, with a little temperature.
My daughter also gave me an unprecedented assurance.
In recent years, I have also felt an unprecedented sense of certainty.
At first glance, the life of the head has what meaning? That is salted fish! This is what I thought before my daughter was born. Therefore, I am always messing around, setting up shop and starting a business with others. In retrospect, it is like playing house.
Of course, I still haven’t experienced those wonderful and alternative lifestyles. I used to want to experience everyone, what [50 places to go in life], [30 things to do in life] and so on. I have never thought about whether I am really happy to really experience. People’s time and ability are limited, and experiencing this is an opportunity cost that.
Even if it is really the aspiration of the heart, does it need to be comprehensively evaluated to see if it can bear the consequences?
If one’s pursuit is to sacrifice the people around him and others are unwilling, is the sum of happiness still positive? Self and selflessness always have to be weighed constantly. If they cannot find the direction, they will always float and float.
This seemingly ruthless world is not so cruel to the vast majority of our ordinary people.
Everyone will have several directions of inner belonging, and it is not difficult to find one. We should stick to our original dream when doing something, and do not stick to our original dream when being a person.
Although I always love to be in the circle of friends, I really thank my eldest daughter. Every day when I pick up my daughter from school and come home, she jumps through the door and pestles at home like a needle in the sea. I think if life can go on like this at a glance, it will be happy enough.
Will you have the same experience? To live a safe, plain and peaceful life is a wonderful life.
Over the past three years, I have learned all kinds of new knowledge, thought about many life topics, learned how to get along well with new life, and learned how to help her stretch her life to the maximum volume to stand in this world with beauty and evil.
But I am not an all-round mother.
It is very difficult to respect the child 100% and will lure her to obey in order to make her convenient. I will yell at her when she doesn’t like me, and I will desert and throw her to watch the animation.
I don’t think there is a mother who can satisfy all the wishes of her children. There is not such a perfect family of origin. As long as the children feel safe and satisfied, it is already a difficult task.
Under the limited time and material conditions, I think I get along well with my little mentor in life. Oh no, the three of us get along well. However, my father only praises the baby but not the black baby, so here I mainly express myself. I am not praising a reflective mother, I am really thanking an influential daughter.
Thanks to my family Duan Zishou, who has been getting along for more than three years, I have made great efforts than slack off. Her advantages far outweigh her disadvantages, which is quite good.
I hope you won’t be like me in hindsight. It won’t be until Eva is over three years old that you really realize these great principles of life with your heart.
It is said that only when you are a mother can you have a complete life, which is only half true.
Some people have successfully transformed their industries before they have upgraded, such as some girls who have lived through their single years.
Some people have to upgrade their industries and have no choice but to transform, such as middle-aged women like me. But don’t be afraid, it’s not too late, no one knows how long they can live.
It is more logical to say that meeting a child is to meet a better self. I am not surprised by love, friendship or kinship, but by my ability to save energy and grow more love in my heart brought by my children.
Life is like a doughnut: you think it is sweet, but it has a hole; You don’t think it is round enough, but it is really sweet. You think others’ is sweeter, others may think yours is more beautiful. We might as well cherish it and follow our life mentor to experience it well.