Every parent has good expectations for his child and hopes that he can become an upright, kind and magnanimous person.
However, in the process of children’s growth, some [clever] behaviors of parents will inevitably affect children’s values imperceptibly.
What I share today is a mother’s thinking about parents’ [taking advantage] behavior.
A buffet saw clearly the self-restraint of the family.
Once I went to Toronto to eat seafood self-service, because I took my children late. When I got the number, the family of four at the next table had already eaten for a round. It looked like the King of Stomach.
The family took large plates of food one by one and could wind up every time.
When I was about to leave, I heard the parents of the little boy at the next table ask the child:
Can you still eat?
It seems that they have eaten their own throats, and the amount of stuttering in a family of four is at least twice that of ordinary families.
Really can’t eat, they still don’t give up, the father said:
This Haagen-Dazs ice cream ball costs tens of dollars each. Let’s all eat more.
At that time, it was still the end of December, in the middle of winter, after he had eaten four by himself, he handed the little boy another one.
After the little boy finished eating reluctantly, the whole family belched away.
When we returned to the underground garage of the shopping mall, we ran into the family again. The little boy was vomiting and had already vomited all over the floor.
The child’s mother said:
You let him eat so much ice cream, now, it costs more than that to go to the hospital.
The man immediately refuted:
Also said that I, if you hadn’t let him eat so much seafood, could this be the case?
Next to the grandmother while patting the child’s back, trying to make him feel more comfortable, while quietly repenting:
It’s all my fault. I also told him to eat more.
In life, this kind of scene is not uncommon. When I go to the supermarket to buy vegetables, I wish I could peel the cabbage into vegetable hearts and take an extra plastic bag when I leave.
When eating hot pot, I wish I could eat all the free ingredients.
Before, there were news reports that some people would go to IKEA in married with children, rub the air conditioner, and sleep directly on other people’s sample beds. Their behavior was extremely indecent.
Do these Chinese cleverness really take advantage of them?
On one occasion, I saw a grandmother taking her grandson to the supermarket. It was the weekend when all the major brands were doing trial food promotion. The two grandchildren ate from beginning to end.
After eating, Sun Tzu conveniently picked up a yogurt sold nearby and was just about to drink it when Grandma grabbed it and said:
This child, you need money to drink this.
Sun Tzu said: [The aunt said just now that if you try something delicious, you can try their products.]
Grandma said angrily: “She was lying to you. I will remember that she only eats free food in the supermarket.”
The little grandson nodded and said, “I remember.”
However, I wish this little grandson did not remember Grandma’s words, because these words will have an indelible impact on his whole life.
I remember when I first joined the work, a designer who joined the job together had the following mantra: “I am not active after work, I have brain problems.”
And I am the person with brain problems. I have obsessive-compulsive disorder at work. I will feel uncomfortable if I don’t finish a day’s work, so I just finish it before leaving.
Six months later, because I completed several excellent projects, the company offered me an increase in salary, but that colleague did not.
She went to the personnel very angrily, but the personnel rejected the request for a salary increase and resigned in a fit of pique.
A few years have passed, and she seems to have taken advantage of the theory of “being active after work”.
At the same time, I was perplexed that I was nearly 30 years old but had not had a satisfactory job. I felt that the whole world was against her.
In fact, it is her own mentality that has always been the enemy to her.
She always felt that she would suffer when she worked outside her work.
There is a saying from our ancestors that it is a blessing to suffer losses. Sacrifice
Sacrifice some spare time and fight for your career while you are young. This kind of loss is to accumulate happiness for yourself. This is the real intelligence.
However, those who took pains to take advantage of time and thought they were smart actually suffered a great loss:
I lost my time when I should have worked hard, my age when I could have appreciated, and my calm when I arrived at 30.
Not taking advantage is my educational principle.
After having children, I feel even more that [not taking advantage] should be one of the educational standards.
Once I went to the supermarket, the child accidentally broke a bottle of sesame oil. The aunt next to me advised me to leave quickly, but no one saw me. However, I insisted on staying and waiting for the supermarket manager, because I wanted the child to know that if I did something wrong, I would bear it and could not take advantage of it.
In fact, I know I didn’t suffer at all.
Because in the future, I can save a lot of time and explain to my children the reason why I should be responsible.
In my hometown, there is a child, that is, the kind of child who was taught to take advantage of supermarkets from an early age.
He didn’t like studying, so he dropped out of junior high school and worked outside for a long time.
Later, when his livelihood became a problem outside, he went to the nearby supermarket to steal it, and the supermarket did not investigate it too much once or twice. However, this actually emboldened him and stole more and more.
The head of the supermarket decided to arrest him.
On one occasion, the supermarket saw him come and called several security guards specially, and he was caught red-handed.
Originally, he was just trying to stop his theft and did not intend to send him to the police station. Unexpectedly, he fought hard and wounded a security guard with a knife halfway through. He was finally sentenced.
Now every time he mentions it, his mother would even say that his children only took something from them, and they even started to stir up all the people. They all hurt their children, and then there were a lot of curses.
The mother did not understand all her life. In fact, it was she who really hurt the child.
If it weren’t for her subtle influence on the children and taking advantage of others, if it weren’t for her letting the children taste the benefits of taking advantage, how could the children think of taking advantage of supermarkets, even stealing, and finally send themselves to prison when they grow up?
There are always some self-righteous people who are complacent after taking advantage of some petty advantages. In fact, they have already been taken advantage of imperceptibly.
What’s more, people always have some time alone in their lives. In addition to learning to get along with others, they should also learn to get along with themselves.
Only when you walk through every step of your life openly can you be truly honest when you are alone. Isn’t it the greatest advantage to get peace of mind?
You need to know that there is no free lunch in the world. If you want to take advantage of life, life will definitely demand it back from you.