Often, my mother asked Dr. Clove, when it comes to the difficulties encountered in toilet training for my baby, many mothers said that it is more difficult to train my baby to go to the toilet than my female treasure:
People’s 2-year-old female treasure will go to the toilet by herself. Why can’t my son go to the toilet at the age of 2.5?
The son can only squat down and urinate like the girl, not stand up and urinate. What can I do?
In fact, toilet training also requires [men and women are different], and male and female babies should pay attention to ways and means of training. In addition, it is also very important who will teach babies, especially male treasures. If mothers come to train, they will encounter more problems.
What? Haven’t heard of it? Dr. Clove invited Mr. Zuo Fei to talk about this topic.
Toilet Training: Men’s Treasures and Women’s Treasures Have Different Learning Rhythms
It is normal that most men’s treasures have to [begin to understand later] than women’s treasures in toilet training.
Before the age of 9, the neurological development speed of male treasure is slower than that of female treasure, and the ability of female treasure to learn new things is higher than that of male treasure. The same is true for toilet training.
Most women’s treasures can start training to go to the toilet at the age of 1, 6 months to 2 years old, while men’s treasures need not be so anxious (training is also acceptable, and the pace is understandable at a slower pace). It is not too late to train to go to the toilet at the age of 2, 6 months to 3 years old.
However, these are not absolute. I am just saying this here to comfort the impatient treasure mothers. Don’t worry too much [why do other children go to the toilet by themselves? ] This kind of problem.
Different children have different development rhythms, so there is no comparison. Never use [other people’s children] to put pressure on yourself.
How judges whether his baby can start toilet training? For details, please refer to the baby’s top 5 [toilet signals]:
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The baby began to obviously express that his diapers were wet and uncomfortable.
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The baby began to be very interested in the toilet.
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The baby can ensure that the diaper is dry for more than 2 hours or can keep the diaper dry all night after sleeping.
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The baby can understand many words of adults.
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The baby can defecate regularly every day.
When there are more than 2 signals above, toilet training can be carried out.
No matter male treasure or female treasure, if these signals have appeared before the age of 2, you can train in advance. If they have not appeared after the age of 2, don’t worry, etc. Eva is not a problem.
Who will train? Same-sex parents have many advantages in training,
In addition to the above-mentioned [late onset of resuscitation], male treasure is easy to encounter a big problem in toilet training: he cannot learn the correct urination posture.
He can only urinate squatting, not standing, because no right person can teach him.
Taking care of babies seems to be the bounden duty of female parents, but we really advocate that same-sex parents can participate more in toilet training.
In particular, the father’s training of male treasure to go to the toilet will enable the child to have a better sense of identity with his own gender and master [the correct urination posture of male students] more quickly.
There are very few examples that show that when a mother goes to the toilet with a male treasure, it may make a male treasure more like a girl to go to the toilet or go to the female toilet, but she will not like or even reject going to the male toilet to go to the toilet with a male treasure.
Next, let’s talk about different training methods for boys and girls to go to the toilet.
Train male treasure to go to the toilet. Dad can teach it like this.
Urination Training: Shooting Down the Plane
If conditions permit, you can stick a small plane in the children’s toilet and a small plane in the adult toilet. Once you have to urinate, your father can compete with your baby to see who can shoot down the small plane in your toilet first!
Such an interesting competition can not only improve the baby’s interest in going to the toilet, but also cultivate the baby’s concentration.
It will not interfere with the baby’s attention because of the splash of urine or even cause the baby to urinate everywhere just to see the splash because of interest, it will be a disaster…
Poo Training: Hard Work Together
Male treasures generally want to do [the same thing as their father] very much, so when training defecation, their father can exert himself with their baby.
Face red with your baby and then laugh happily. This simple joking encouragement can give your baby a strong sense of belonging and speed up going to the toilet.
Train female treasures to go to the toilet. Mother can teach them this way.
STEP 1 Talk together
This kind of “sister-in-law” type of happy communication brings the hearts of mother and daughter closer together, and it is also likely to surprise mother to find such a little adult in the original family! What knows! You can talk to your baby about the boys in your class, your plans, your recent watch of what cartoons, your thoughts on what, etc.
2. Fun Toilet
The mother can choose the toilet with bright colors and even sound and screen for the female treasure, so that the baby can have more entertainment on the toilet and the baby likes to sit on the toilet very much.
At the same time, if the toilet can be placed next to the adult toilet, the mother and the baby can go to the toilet together, and the toy of the toilet can also be used to interact with the baby.
STEP 3 Pay Attention to Hygiene
Because the characteristics of physiological organs determine that women’s treasures need to pay more attention to hygiene after defecation than men’s treasures (of course men’s treasures should also pay attention to hygiene! ), for example, when wiping after defecation, special attention should be paid not to pollute the urethra. It is recommended to wipe from the front to the back instead of from the back to the front. At the same time, the movements should be gentle to avoid hurting the baby’s soft skin.
Dad doesn’t have time, how can mom teach male treasure?
Dad is too busy to have time. I can only teach my son. What can I do?
If this is the case, we also try our best to hope that Dad can use his time at home to exercise male treasure to go to the toilet.
For example, when the father is at home, he can invite the baby to go to the toilet together and use the above methods to train, so that the baby [imitates] the father and let the baby know that the father’s way of urinating is the correct way for our boys to urinate.
In addition, there are also many parents who will encounter such situations: parents of the opposite sex take their babies out to play and have to go to the toilet, and the babies are not willing to go to the toilets of the opposite sex.
At this time, parents will feel troublesome or bored, but don’t criticize the baby [ignorant], because this is the sign that the baby is becoming more and more sensible. This shows that the baby has reached a higher level of understanding of gender and knows the importance of shame.
Correct Approach:
At ordinary times, going to the toilet at home pays attention to cultivating children’s independence and privacy, and pays attention to closing the door.
When outside, try to respect the child’s privacy and thoughts. It is best for same-sex adults to lead them to the bathroom. Parents of the opposite sex wait outside to train the baby to go to the bathroom by himself.