The mother had to ask the old man to help her take care of her when she had to go to work, but she was worried that the difference in parenting concepts would lead to various family conflicts and even make her [step on the pit].
In fact, as long as parents have the same ideas and can communicate with the elderly about the principles of child-rearing, even if they cannot do it by themselves, they can also make the baby grow up healthily and the family happy.
Today, we have sorted out the [pits] that these 10 old people are easy to hit with their babies and see how to avoid them.
No.10 Excessive Protection of Children
When playing outdoors, the old man will follow her when she takes her baby, which will not allow her to do or touch her. Even at home, the old man will not allow her to crawl around for fear of being unsafe and unclean. This over-protection of the child limits the development of the baby and will also make the baby timid and cowardly.
We can do this:
Do a good job of cleaning the home in advance to eliminate hidden dangers. For a baby, you can also use mats and fences to ensure the safety of play.
Outdoor, take the elderly to experience a safe area (empty car-free square or safe children’s amusement park), and prepare wet paper towels and wash-free hand sanitizer for the elderly in case of emergency.
We can say this:
Mom and Dad, you see, when I was a child, I grew up with small knocks and small touches. As long as the environment is safe, I can let my baby play properly ~ babies who can explore by themselves are generally smarter!
No.9 Arrange everything for the baby,
Many old people love their babies and are used to coaxing them. As a result, children will not eat alone, wear strip shoes, even bother to speak, and even lose their temper when they are not satisfied.
We can do this:
At home, encourage the baby to do his own things and praise the baby in time. When the enthusiasm of the baby [tastes the benefits] also goes up, the old man will naturally let go when he sees the child sensible.
We can say this:
How sensible the baby you brought with you is. In fact, the baby can do anything. I really don’t need to do it for them. If I don’t learn in advance, I will suffer more when I go to kindergarten. I really don’t need to be afraid of crying. Crying won’t damage my body ~
No.8 Premature Addition of Supplementary Foods and Seasonings
[Children who don’t eat salt will be boring], [Children don’t like tasteless food], in fact, are all false reasons.
If the old man in the family takes the baby, he must communicate well with the old man:
Add supplementary foods after 4 ~ 6 months, step by step, and do not try adult foods too early. Salt and honey should not be added within 1 year old, nor should seasonings be added. Keep light after 1 year old.
We can do this:
If you are not at ease within one year old, you can prepare your baby’s supplementary food by yourself. Apart from vegetables, other foods can be frozen more and tell the old man what to eat for her every day.
We can say this:
Before the age of 1, the baby does not need any condiments, which will increase the burden on the baby’s kidney and will be more picky about food in the future. In fact, you can also adjust your appetite with your child and eat a light diet, which is helpful for hypertension and hyperlipidemia ~
No.7 Snacks for Children
The old man always felt that not giving his children snacks would [lose his mouth], and it was pitiful for other children to eat their own food, so he bought all kinds of buy buy. However, high sugar, high salt, high calorie and additives are not good for the baby’s health.
We can do this:
Homemade or buy more comfortable snacks and put them at home, and make an agreement with the elderly on the number and timing of snacks to eat every day.
We can say this:
If you eat too many unhealthy snacks, the baby will not eat, be picky about food and suffer from tooth decay. Do you think so, let’s go to the supermarket together to choose some healthy snacks for the baby? You give your baby regular and quantitative food every day. By the way, don’t you like corn and sweet potatoes best? You can also give them to your baby, which is good for her health ~
No.6 Always coax children by watching TV,
The old man was sometimes unable to play with her at home. In addition, when she was noisy, she relented and let her children watch TV to kill time, sometimes for hours at a glance.
American pediatrics does not recommend children under 2 years old to watch TV. Children over 2 years old should not watch TV for more than 2 hours a day. Watching too much TV hurts eyes and also affects children’s language ability.
We can do this:
Lead by example and watch TV at home without your baby. Buy some games suitable for the elderly and children to play together (washable crayons & ultra-light clay, etc.); Set a time limit for watching TV; Download or on demand some programs of the right age.
We can say this:
Baby’s eyes will not be good if he watches too much TV (for example, I) and he will speak late. If he wants to watch it, watch XX. I’ll just adjust the program for you and turn it on. Remember, it’s just one episode. Yes, you can also teach your child to play XXX. The child will think that Grandma/Grandpa is too good!
No.5 Give the child excrement and urine and wear open-backed pants.
Many old people like to give their children [excrement and urine] and also like to wear open-backed pants for their babies. These two points are actually unscientific.
[Turning excrement into urine] It is not helpful for children to defecate and exercise themselves, and there may be potential health hazards. Although open-backed pants are [convenient], they are unhygienic and indecent, which is detrimental to children’s privacy.
We can do this:
Prepare several diapers, let the elderly also participate in the identification of the most breathable and skin-friendly diapers, and tell the elderly how often to change diapers. If the baby uses no red buttocks, naturally there is no need to worry.
We can say this:
Mom and Dad, look at this news. The child put the stone into his buttocks in open-backed pants and finally went to the hospital to get the stone. It’s really unsafe to expose his buttocks. Let’s put on diapers and trousers. These diapers are very cheap and don’t have to wash diapers. It’s not too hard to quit until the baby is older. I’m not in a hurry ~
No.4 Drug Abuse for Children
Sometimes when the old man looks at the child’s runny nose and cough, he feels that the child has caught a cold and needs to [take medicine down]. Sometimes he will give the child private medicine, adult medicine or proprietary Chinese medicine.
However, it is necessary to be very careful to give drugs to children, and it is by no means [almost] [random].
We can do this:
Pack up unsafe drugs; Insist on following the doctor’s advice for several colds, do not abuse drugs, and use the effect to tell the elderly that most colds can be cured without taking drugs.
We can say this:
Eva’s illness is actually a good thing. It is the baby’s body that is upgrading. The vast majority of colds can be cured without taking medicine and taking more rest. If you are afraid of going to the hospital for trouble? We can ask Dr. Clove with our mobile phones ~ they are all doctors in 3A hospitals, which are much more professional than us ~
No 3 Children should wear more clothes and not catch cold.
The old man’s metabolism is slow and he is afraid of the cold. He wears more clothes and is always afraid of the cold. As soon as he cools down, he wraps the baby like a zongzi. In summer, he does not take off his socks and wears long-sleeved trousers.
However, it is not good to wear too much. Children’s metabolism is already stronger than that of adults. If they wear too much, their body heat cannot be dissipated, which will lead to prickly heat or aggravate eczema. In severe cases, they may have heat-covering syndrome.
We can do this:
At home, I wear clothes for my baby every day so that the old man can be exposed to it. After work, I take out the clothes I want to wear every day and give them to the old man for later use.
We can say this:
You used to say [want children to be safe, three points hungry and cold], especially reasonable, in fact, children are afraid of heat and not afraid of cold, wearing less is healthier than wearing more. I’ll teach you a way to judge hot and cold, touch the baby’s neck or back, if it is warm and does not sweat, the temperature is just right.
No.2 Don’t force children to perform and share in public.
The old man took the children out to play, trying to make others feel that his baby was [polite] [well educated], so he coaxed and forced the baby to call someone and let the baby perform the program…
However, it is normal for babies not to dare or want to say hello when facing strangers or unfamiliar people.
We can do this:
It is a virtue to tell your baby to share and be polite, but the premise is that your baby can understand and [willingly]. If your baby takes the initiative to say hello or is willing to perform, you should praise your baby in time.
We can say this:
The baby has grown up and has his own ideas. Sometimes he doesn’t want to say or share them, which shows whether Eva is smart or not. Don’t worry, take your time, the more you force her, the more rebellious she will be…
No.1 Listen to Unreliable Rumors of Parenting
Some old people also want to take better care of their grandchildren, but they have too much unreliable folk prescription experience around them. Search the Internet. They are all kinds of unreliable experience posts. The more they look at them, the more afraid they are. The more they look at them, the more they don’t know how to do it.
Even if you accidentally listen to a rumor, the poor baby will become a [test].
We can do this:
Buy some parenting books and put them at home. I also discuss them with the elderly when I study every day. Help the elderly to pay attention to correct and reliable sources of parenting knowledge and encourage the elderly to study regularly.
We can say this:
Mom and Dad, it’s nice to have a public number called Dr. Clove. The articles in it are all written by doctors and experts, which is especially reliable! You have paid attention to this every day and have nothing to look at, so you will become the old man who can raise and bring babies in the whole community.