Many parents asked me how to improve their children’s social skills. The problem is simple and complicated. It is said that it is simple because on the surface, the social ability in childhood seems to make children more cheerful and more fond of making friends. Said it was complicated, It is because the cultivation of children’s social ability is closely related to their own temperament type, family environment and social environment. There can be no formulaic method. Social skills are a series of comprehensive skills that people need to communicate and interact with each other in work and life. These include language skills, It also includes executive power, decision-making power and self-confidence. For children of different ages, With regard to social skills, We can still find some common factors and specific cultivation methods. Below, I would like to share with you some of my views on the social problems of preschool children. And talk about how to cultivate children’s language expression ability. Every child has his own characteristics. Children’s personality characteristics will affect children’s social tendency to a certain extent. Personality characteristics are divided into personality characteristics and temperament types. There may be a very unique combination in each child. Parents must first understand their children’s unique personality characteristics. Only in this way can we help our children better. If parents are worried about their children’s social problems, it is recommended to seek help from professionals and not to search for some personality test questionnaires on the Internet to draw conclusions for their children. Is introversion poor in social skills? Not so. Some children tend to be extroverted and willing to communicate with others. Some children tend to be introverted, His own personality determines that his social frequency will not be very high. It is really difficult to judge whether it is good or bad. Because whether it is introverted or extroverted, You can become a healthy, happy and healthy person. Parents don’t have to pay special attention to whether their children like or [are willing] to socialize. Because it’s personality, There is no direct causal relationship between success and failure. Parents should pay attention to whether their children are [good] at socializing. Introverted children are not necessarily not good at socializing. Maybe our children just [don’t like socializing] (don’t like socializing), This is really nothing. However, it is better to be [sociable] (good at socializing), especially at critical moments (training, negotiation, meetings), and be able to achieve their goals through good social skills. Should children deliberately talk more? If children don’t like to talk, but communication and communication are fine, do parents need to worry? Some parents feel that, Children who love to talk and make friends are good at socializing. But good communication and communication skills are not equal to love to talk. I met a little girl before, The mother of the child thinks that it is not good for the little girl to be introverted and not to talk. It will be disadvantageous in the future, So she encouraged her to talk more every day. Mother’s method is, When she met an acquaintance, she said first, Deliberately say a lot of things, Affect children, Then often take their children to the vegetable market, Let the children chat with the uncle and aunt who bought vegetables and the acquaintances they came across. After a long time, The child talked a lot, From a shy little princess to a real [chatter], There are endless things to say to everyone. I dare not judge whether such changes are good or bad for children. But I always feel that it is against the nature of children. And there is no obvious evidence to prove it. The transition from introversion to chatter, It has brought more benefits to her development. There is a popular saying in the psychological circle: [Don’t repair the car before it breaks down.] If the child’s behavior does not affect the normal life of the child and his family, then I tend to suggest parents respect the child’s personality and let the child develop freely within a reasonable range. How to cultivate the child’s language expression ability? Although parents are not advised to deliberately let their children talk more, However, attention should still be paid to the cultivation of children’s language expression ability during the important period of language development. Here are some ways parents can try. The 9-24 month preparation period for language development can properly take their children to participate in adult social activities. Of course, attention should also be paid to avoiding factors such as air and noise that are not conducive to children’s physical and mental development. During this period, Children may not be able to speak complete sentences, But can understand what adults say. Because brain development is not yet complete, The child’s language nerve center is accumulating [material] (auditory and visual stimuli) at this stage. If the child is exposed to enough verbal and nonverbal stimuli (such as body language and expression) at this stage, It will lay a solid foundation for the following language development. The golden age of 2-4 years old language development (irreversible) 2-4 years old is often called the golden age of children’s language development by psychologists. This is because children are most efficient in language learning at this stage. Some language abilities must be improved at this age. Once this time period is exceeded, It is possible that there will be no substantial improvement in the future. At this stage, Children begin to learn languages, Learn to communicate with others. This includes verbal and non-verbal language skills. 1. Cultivate verbal language skills (1) Tell Daily Life Parents can encourage their children to tell more about daily events, describe illustrations in books, etc. by asking questions in daily life. Let children practice more in language to achieve the purpose of proficiency. The way of asking questions can gradually change from closed to open. That is, from simply asking the child to answer yes or no, To let children express their views on specific things. (2) Drawing expression can also encourage children to draw out what they see outside. Although parents may think that children cannot use language in the process, But on closer inspection, Parents should find out, In the process of recalling things and showing them on paper with pictures, Often to talk to themselves. Because the child’s brain is not yet fully developed, I can’t think of what I think in my heart like an adult, You need to translate your thoughts and speak them out so that you can hear them. This has trained children’s speech and thinking ability. However, parents should still be reminded, If the child is unwilling to draw, Don’t force it either. 2. Cultivate nonverbal language ability (1) Show different emotions by playing games. Mother is in charge of the questions, The father competed with the child, See who shows anger, happiness, anxiety, nervousness and other emotions first. Younger children, Before playing, you can patiently explain to him some emotions that he doesn’t quite understand. What means, Exercise the expression of your child’s facial nerves and body language. (2) Discuss the emotions in the story. When watching TV and reading with your child, you can use heuristic questions to guide your child to think about the emotions of others. For example, when you see the bear crying and frowning, you can ask the child [What’s wrong with the bear? Why is he crying? Do you think he is very sad now? It was what who made him so sad? ] to guide the child to think about and explain the emotions of the characters in the story. Of course, it can be discussed after reading the whole story or during the evening review, so as not to interfere with the child’s attention. Responsible Editor: yidan
